Should I be worried?

[Alte]

I had a phone call from the school today telling me that DD (year 10) hadn't been in 1 of her lessons. When I got home, I asked her about it and she said she couldn't go to that specific lesson because she hated it so much and even said she'd rather be dead than go to the lesson. She used to like the lesson until she had her current teacher, so AIBU to ask the school to move her from set 1 to set 2? All her friends are in that class, and she prefers the teacher. I don't want her to stop going altogether as it's a core subject, but if the school refuses to move her (which I unfortunately suspect they will), what should I do? She's not like this with any other lessons so it's not a behaviour thing. Thanks for any advice you can give!

She wants to be with her friends. I wouldn’t move her.

Make an appointment as soon as possible with the head of subject.
Go in and discuss your concerns, preferably with your daughter present.
Be aware that it may be possible that she can't move without it affecting other subjects (because of the way the timetable works), in which case it would perhaps be helpful for you both to sit down with the class teacher and find a way for her to continue where she is.

So, she truanted a class and you want to reward her by complaining to the school and asking for her to be moved? All because she doesn't like the teacher?

She's not averse to using emotional blackmail either us she?

Bloody hell - don't fall for it.

If she genuinely had a problem, she would have raised it before bunking off.

She does get to dictate what teacher or set she is in. If you push for it the school will have to as that parent. Do not pander.

Something more along the lines that you'll make her wish she was indeed dead if she doesn't go?

Come on, even Boris "dead in a ditch" Johnson asked for a delay.

1. If she just doesnt5lije the teacher, tough. We dont all like our bosses. Its part of life.

1. Where was she and what was she doing when she was bunking.

1. Are you going to punish her? Shes a teenager and old enough to communicate sensibly - unless she actually seriously means that she would rather be dead thats not good enough

She told me she just sat in an empty classroom with a friend today. I don't want to punish her for bunking off as I've known about problems in the class for a while. Probably should've said, she's had issues with MH before which is the main reason I'm worried - if she says something like this there's a good chance she's telling the truth.

@Alte Even with MH problems, you need to sit down with DD and Head of Subject and discuss DD'd dislike of lesson. If it's just because she wants to be in the other set because her friends are there and she prefers the teacher, that's not really a good enough excuse. It doesn't help DD manage her emotions or build resilience.

The school should put in support for your DD (as can you - GP involved? counselling etc?) so she can learn to accept and adapt to change.

You've still got to be mindful of your DD taking advantage of you.

I overheard a teenage girl in a shop with her friend she other day. She was laughing at how her mum thinks she's going to kill herself so she just tells her everything is affecting her MH to get out of things.

Talk about manipulation.