Anxiety over every little thing!

[windmills88]

I worry about every single little thing, no matter how silly/small.

For example, DH recently got a new laptop for his work (he's self employed) which cost a lot of money. I can't stop worrying that the screen size is too small for him, that it'll hamper him in his work and that he should have gone for the bigger size. I've said this to him and that we can upgrade it if he wants to (it's still within the returns period), but he says it's fine. He's asked me to stop talking about it now as he says it's getting annoying, but I know I'll be stressing about it in my head for weeks.

Another example - when I decorated the house I agonised for months over the paint colours and now the work has been done I'm still not convinced I chose the right ones or that it looks good. Same when we replaced the kitchen.

Is this normal and how can I stop?!

Obviously there may be really significant bits of information that aren't in your post and no one can diagnose you over the internet so take this with a pinch of salt, but...

Worrying over lots of different types of things, to the point it interferes with you getting on with your life, and especially if there always seems to be something for you to worry about, sounds a lot like Generalised Anxiety Disorder. There'll be an NHS page about it somewhere.

A few different things to help stop it:-

Self-help. There's quite a lot about GAD on the internet. A site called Moodjuice has some good self help workbooks you could try.

There's a book called something like "Overcoming Worry" which might be helpful (tbh, there's probably quite a few books called that and they're probably quite similar in content)

Refer yourself to Talking Therapies.

See your GP.

Thanks - I've just had a look at the NHS page and I can relate to a lot of what it says.

I don't know how to get over the laptop thing - it's like I'm fixated on it.

I feel that every decision I make seems to be the wrong one.

DH has also gently tried to explain that I ruin situations because of my anxiousness over them - he was happy to get a new laptop but I kept going on about the size of it, for example. And we were really looking forward to getting the house painted but I keep going on about how I don't like the colours and wish we'd gone for something else. I need to stop but I'm such an anxious person. I feel like it's taking over my life!