Need to stop Trying to talk myself of

[Tattooedmama]

Weaning my almost 2 year old from the breast.
My little one is 2 in 3 weeks and we have pretty much day weaned him (feeds for nap) and it only worked by putting plasters on my nips every day.
Last weekend the sides came off his cot and hes now in his toddler bed, which is fantastic as hes been co sleeping with us for almost 2 years.
I want to 100% wean now, i have been putting it off because it will be hell, so tonight im going to bite the bullet and no more milk on offer.
My reasons for wanting to stop now, hes getting a little bad tempered when he dont get his own way, screams, growls and will head butt objects - luckily he dont smack or get aggressive.
While hes feeding he constantly pulls at my nips, pinching and HAS to hold them while he feeds my toes are curling and im biting my hand when hes doing it, but its the only thing that settles him otherwise he will scream.
He still wakes up 2-3 times a night, i understand that might not change but least ill have my nips back and in one piece.
My aim was to breastfeed for 6 months and max of 12 months, ive made it to almost 2 and im more than happy ive done it.

Im so so so ready, but The guilt is getting to me, and how on earth do i settle him? Breastfeeding is all we have both known for everything.
Has anyone else with a similiar age toddler done this?
He dont talk yet, understands quite a bit but not full sentences.

Wow that was longer than i thought

The no cry wearing guides are good! Sleep solution etc.

I’m feeding my toddler and it’s bloody hard!

The can I breastfeed one it support and other breastfeeding support pages on Facebook are very good for some real life experience x

I am on them groups but i dont think its gentle weaning im doing, the advice is normally drop one feed at a time etc and i just want to stop all together

Is his dad around, or do you live with someone? We night weaned ours at about the same age, but I couldn’t have done it without DP. If he’s in his own bed, that is huge progress! We did it by DP going in each time he woke and offering water. I don’t actually remember it being that painful - maybe I’ve just blocked it out. But ideally it has to be someone else as they smell the milk on you.

The most difficult feed for us to drop was the first one of the day and we had a terrible tantrum each day for the first three days - and then nothing. It did help that he was a bit older (almost 3) and we explained the Milk Fairy would bring him a present when he stopped - and on day 3 or 4, she delivered.

Good luck!

Dad is around but unfortinately little one still in our bedroom, in his bed at the bottom of our bed.
Partner has never got him to sleep in almost 2 years because ive always fed to sleep

I know one person who went away for a few days - Dad has to be ready for a rough ride, but might do the trick.

feeding for naps is the cause of his waking 2-3 times a night. Wean him and settle him without suckling on anything

You need to be firmer. Yes he will cry but you need to hold firm. No DS, and remove his hand.

I just stopped at 14 months, DS didn’t want to and probably would have continued a really long time if I’d let him. But I didn’t want to. I wanted my body and my bed back. I feel no guilt over this whatsoever.

I spent several nights telling him it was going to stop - however he was about 30 months I think and we linked it to moving him into the other bedroom.

On the night we stopped I just left bedtime to his dad.

I did have a very amenable baby in many ways; but so far as I remember his younger brother had no more problems.

(oh, and stopping the night feeds did not stop him waking. Looking back, I reckon that only stopped once he was dry at night. Either that or he just stopped needing to call out for me when he woke)

Don't ever again allow yourself to get into the situation where you're being hurt in order to placate your child.

Im terrible for caving in, i have sometimes done it during the day but im mostly firm and say no milk till bedtime (has cows milk in a cup during the day though)
Hes been screaming for the last hour for his nap time feed, im shattered already because of the night time waking.
Its not going to be easy tonight getting him to sleep without a feed
I think im in for a very long weekend/week

Well i refused to feed him to sleep for his afternoon nap, he cried for just under an hour before falling asleep to paw patrol.
I comforted, cuddled and gently told him no more milk. He wasnt impressed at all, and im dreading bedtime because when i say time for bed he does a dance up the hallway all excited because hes waited most of the day for his comfort 😭
God writing that out is making me feel worse that im taking his confort away from him... an breathe

can you distract him with something else toy/audio story /moving to new room
I would suggest get dad to do bedtime...maybe new routine ..stairs bath story with dad in/out bed something different anyway bed and you go out.... (i went to the supermarket so couldnt crumble!)

I think last night was a sucess.
Took him to bed around 9:30 when he started to get very very tired, alot of whinging and pulling at me, put peppa pig on for around 20 minutes which he was happy with and then switched it off, took about another 30 mins of letting him move as much as he wanted then he finally settled down and went to sleep at 10:45.
Stayed asleep till 6am
Got him back to sleep in about 15 mins, only way he would go back to sleep was with his arms around my neck cuddling my head (with me unable to breathe properly)
Had to get up then and try hand express as my right boob was the size of a watermelon and incredibly sore.
He woke up again then came in my bed for a cuddle for an hour and a half. Hes in a great mood this morning, not asked for milk but hes used to no milk in the day.