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AIBU to leave my job

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GinAndBubbles · 14/11/2019 20:35

Have posted similar thread previously but in the work section and got little traction. Also several weeks on, am now at breaking point.

Ok so on with my sorry story...

Left company A (large, global) in 2017 as role was relocated to a different city.
Left company B in the summer due to the owner being on another planet, small company and 30% of perm employees have left since April.

Joined current company in July. Chose this role over others as the people who interviewed me seemed great, role very interesting, lots of variety, right level of responsibilities etc... I was informally told I’d be coming in to take over a team where the manager had been off sick and not returning.

First month there was dire, no line manager allocated to me, hardly any work, and the person who was supposedly leaving hadn’t, so I was very confused as to what my role / remit was. He also made it clear he did not like me as knew I’d been bought in to replace him.

So 4 months on it’s no better. I hate it. I’ve never felt this way about a role, my career has been so important to me, but I now dread work and it’s impacting all areas of my life - basically I’m now a miserable sod.

Few extra bits for context: I’m still in probation, 1 weeks notice. I’m main earner in household (more than double DH). No kids. Enough savings to not work for ~4 months but would be depleted. Job market very slow, low likelihood of finding something this side of Xmas. Very limited roles come up at my level, but am looking at contracting and/or pay cut.

... so would I be unreasonable to hand my notice in tomorrow and leave next week?

Help!

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Anotherlongdrive · 14/11/2019 20:39

Honestly, I would start job hunting.

As the main earner in my household I wouldnt quit and start using savings unless I work in an industry that was crying out for people of my level.

Calic0 · 14/11/2019 21:02

I have to say that I agree with @Anotherlongdrive - in the circs you describe I would not leave without something to go to. But then I’m very risk averse.

If you’re thinking about contracting all I would say is that the IR35 rules are getting tighter and it’s an area in general that is inviting more scrutiny from HMRC - (in some cases) with good reason. So make sure you take good advice.

Sorry things are tough. Hope they improve.

Raphael34 · 14/11/2019 21:05

If you’re in position to leave then no you’re not bu

GinAndBubbles · 14/11/2019 21:43

Thanks all.

Yes watching IR35 closely and with interest. DH sees me each day (obviously!) and has said just leave, it’s not worth it impacting my health like it is. But like PP I guess I’m too risk adverse to leave without something lined up... gah feels like an impossible situation!!*

*first world problem I know! Totally appreciate people have it much harder and I’m fortunate to have an on paper good job!

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honeybeetheoneandonly · 15/11/2019 15:40

By all means start looking but I would have a chat with your manager first about the situation and where you fit into the company. I'm also not quite sure I understood your situation. Who is the person who dislikes you? Is it the person who was on long term sick who has now returned and resumed his responsibilities permanently?

GinAndBubbles · 15/11/2019 17:12

Hi @honeybeetheoneandonly, thanks for your reply. It’s a little odd and it’s matrix management there, so I have a line manager (who is not a people person at all), and someone who oversees my day to day work. It’s the latter who I was meant to replace and who came back... joys!

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beautifulxdisasters · 15/11/2019 17:26

Is your industry something you could find some kind of temp work or freelancing in to tide you over (even if not at the same level etc)? If so I'd probably just go, and have done the same recently.

I'd probably go anyway tbh. It sounds like you're really being pushed over the edge and your mental health is more important than anything.

honeybeetheoneandonly · 16/11/2019 11:01

If you were hired for a job you don't do what have you been doing for the last 4 months? Is there work for you? I understand the guy not liking you. You are his direct competition and he might also see you as not being of much use to the company now. Neither being your fault.
I would request a meeting urgently with both of them.
Firstly, I would want to know what they consider my role in the company to be. I would highlight my strengths and why I'm an asset to the company but that currently nobody seems happy with this situation, so you need some clarification.
Secondly, I would clear the air with the supervisor. It's not your fault you were hired for his position and it's not your fault you now don't have a clear job description. He clearly doesn't have to like you but you can absolutely expect him to treat you with the same respect he treats any other colleague.
You might still have a future in the company.

Yarboosucks · 16/11/2019 11:29

I would treat your current job as paid job hunting TBH and ride it out. Given the circumstances that you describe, I would say that post-probation, your notice period would be negotiable. It is always better to be job hunting from a position of employment.

Is it possible to approach the people who interviewed you to discuss the issues that you are having?

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