AIBU?
Am I (taking kids to school/nursery)
anothernamejeeves · 14/11/2019 18:05
So due to my DH's job and early starts I naturally take the kids and most evenings unless I am late with work (very rare) I collect. DH sometimes cannot work if extreme weather (like today).
We have argued this evening as I never have any help in the morning as he starts early (I understand that). What upsets me is when he has a day off he thinks he should get a lie in and never offers to get up and take the kids. He also does not offer to collect them. His argument is well I'm already having to go out so why should he
anothernamejeeves · 14/11/2019 18:13
DH did all nursery drop offs and pick ups as it was on his way to work. He never expected me to do it on my days off. I did get up and help in the morning though, I didn’t lie in. I did pick them up sometimes if he was late.
Understandable to an extent but I am the only one picking up and collecting
LightsInOtherPeoplesHouses · 14/11/2019 18:14
I feel your pain. Whoever is taking DS to school it's always me getting him up and ready and it does add that extra bit of difficulty and I do find it frustrating sometimes. However DH has health issues that make mornings difficult for him so we have to work around that. Your DH could help out but chooses not to, that would annoy me, especially if there's other areas where he doesn't pull his weight.
ChilledBee · 14/11/2019 18:17
She's encouraged him because at no point during the TTC period or pregnancy has she said to him that obviously his hours will have to change to reflect the commitment he is making to become a father. She's accepted that he works and she works and sorts the kids too.
ChilledBee · 14/11/2019 18:22
Anyone who has worked for 26 weeks can request flexible hours to accommodate parenting duties. There are also rules specific to under 5s and disabled dependents.
You can also leave your job and find a position where the job or the company is more family friendly. Men can have their career options limited by parenthood in the same way women always have. They just choose not to and stupidly. women support them in that.
PrincessHoneysuckle · 14/11/2019 18:22
Dh has 2 weeks off work in december and has offered to take ds to school and collect and take me to work and pick up.The school is 5 mins walk away and my work is 10 mins walk away,I could easily do the runs myself but he wants to because it's his family and if he can he will.I think your dh is U.
Mylittlepony374 · 14/11/2019 18:24
It's a little sad that he doesn't want to get them. My husband works similarly but whenever he can get off early he collects the toddler. She loves it and he loves how excited she is to see him instead of me.
But I do understand him wanting a sleep in.
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