First parents evening tonight

[cjt110]

Posting in here for traffic

Well, first one in Year 1.

And actually, I'm worried about what his teacher will say. Reception was fine. No major issues. A bit of extra help learning to write but thats it.

This year we've had a change in his behaviour - at home at least. He's answering back, being cheeky, shouting.

He's been being ostracised in his friendship group by a particular boy encouraging others not to play with him. I had to go above his teacher's head to the deputy head after not much seemed to be being done.

His teacher is the Y1 co-ordinator so spends a fair amount of time training, or working from home and he has other teachers. Not supply teachers - they are the teachers who cover the teacher prep sessions but in a week he may have as many as 3 teachers in a week.

I'm just dreading it. To be told his behaviour is shit and he's struggling. This may not be the case at all but I haven't got a positive feeling.

Do I tell the teacher about his behaviour we are experiencing at home? Or do I just keep school and home separate?

You might be pleasantly surprised .
I wouldn't offer the information about his behaviour at home until you've found out how is in class - the two might then tie in if he's acting up in class. However, I'm sure you would have heard something from the teachers if this was the case.
Year 1 is different to reception. They find their feet a bit more and gain more confidence, hence his behaviour at home possibly.
Go tonight with an open mind. Maybe think about reward charts at home if you don't already based on his answering back/shouting etc.
Good luck !

Thank you - I'll update later

I’d not share his behaviour at home other than to say you’ve seen a change if it’s relevant. I would be exploring the number of changes in teacher because that would be unsettling for a lot of children. You may find he’s just about keeping a lid on it at school and is fit to blow when school ends, many kids struggle at the end of the school day or the school week.

He's totally OK with the teachers who cover but going from 1 teacher for 4.5 days a week with 1 cover for 0.5 to 3 teachers over 5 days seems a lot. Whilst it's a close school and the teachers know all the k,ids, it's a big variation for me.

I think had I know she would be out so much, I may have asked for him not to be in that class.

Year 1 is a big change from reception for most kids. There might be a link between his change in behaviour at home and what’s happening in his friendship group. I’d want to know what the school are doing to deal with this.

I'm just dreading it. To be told his behaviour is shit and he's struggling. This may not be the case at all but I haven't got a positive feeling.

Firstly, you might be worrying about nothing.

Secondly, you might well be told he isn't behaving and is struggling. Which yes, is less preferable. But you need to know.

DS (now 11) parent evenings were like this. It led us to discover he had ADHD. Not saying there's any similarity to your situation, but it's not something to dread, it's something to own and parent.

If DS is being a bit of a bugger, then you need to accept that he's acting this way and then be proactive about investigating the underlying reasons, not be "dreading" that you might not like what you hear. It does neither of you any good.

Hope all goes well...

Sorry I meant to update. All went fine. No major worries other than learning he needs to give people space at times. Phew!

There you go!
Sometimes it's not a bad idea to think the worst then if it's good, its a bonus.
I do that but the trouble is with my DD15 it usually is the worst