Is this a bad sign

[barelegs]

What would tyou think if s man told his gf of twelve months that even if they didn't work out in the future ,that she would know how to treated by another man in the Future having gone through a previousabusive relationship

I'm six years younger.He is not definite about now t wanting kids

Your relationship sounds mismatched. You want kids, he doesn't. You want to move in together, he doesn't. You are more into him, than he is you. He knows you're fearful of him dumping you. That's not a healthy relationship. While I don't think you're in an abusive relationship, it's probably not going anywhere long term, because you want different things. I think he was sowing that seed.

Thanks. That is upsetting but I think it's true .

There's nothing wrong with two people wanting different things. Neither of you is 'right' or 'wrong'. It is what it is.

I don't think he's leading you up the garden path because it sounds to me as if he's been honest with you. He doesn't think he wants kids, he doesn't want to live together or get married. Leading up the garden path would be someone promising you those things knowing they will never give them to you.

Why does he stay? He stays because he cares for you and enjoys being with you. The relationship as it is is just what he wants. Just because he doesn't want the same things you do doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. You can love someone to distraction but that doesn't mean they are completely right for you. And that works for you as well as for him.

What you need to decide is if you're going to hang around waiting to see if he ever changes his mind. Personally, I wouldn't. They very rarely do.