Unsure what to do ?

[Whiteroverbaby]

I’ve been friends with someone who I thought was a close friend for over 25 years. We met in high school and stayed friend since, we live about 1hr from each other. She has three children and I just have the one. Everything was great and I knew I could always trust her with anything and the same for her. But over the last 6 months she has been making very hurtful comments which started about an only child and being spoilt, and then comments about the town I live in and so on. I am a very defensive person but I didn’t say anything but I haven’t quite been right with her since and the little digs from her have kept coming. I think she is struggling with her 3rd child although she would never admit this. I have tried talking to her and saying it’s ok to stay in the house at times and to chill but she always feels the need to have rushed herself off her feet and do unnecessary things to make herself “sound better”. It’s like she is trying to impress me but all I want is a friend I can trust and be able to talk to. Over the last week although I have tried messaging her she takes 2 days to reply and starts with. “I forgot to Message you”. Should I keep trying to work on this friendship ? I can count the number of friends I have on one hand so I really don’t want to lose her but should being friends be such hard work and bring you to tears at times with hurtful remarks ?

Being friends shouldn't be hard work at all. To be honest she doesn't sound like much of a friend with all the making digs and lack of response to your messages.
You don't have to actively say to her "it's time to call time on our friendship" but you could just stop contacting her and see what happens, as it sounds as though you're the one doing all the running.

I would just give her space.

If she values your friendship she will realise that you have taken a backseat and reach out to you, she may actually realise how important your friendship is to her.

Yeah I did think of that but I think it would eat away at me just not contacting her and I'm god parents to her children so feel I have a responsibility to be the bigger person. I must of really upset her at some point and I did ask her a month or so ago did I and she said I didn't she was just busy. Is it better to have friends that treat you bad than to have no friends at all ? My other friend doesn't really speak to me as she works shifts and is single etc so I'm not much use to her now and my other friend works full time and has 2 children and has a family member who is ill so she doesn't really have the time to message me either.

I'd rather have no friends that someone who treats me badly.
Perhaps its time to find ways to meet new people, where you can make new friends?

What do actually get out of this relationship now?
Forget how it was or how you'd like it to be, what about now?

Walk away, if she ever wants to apologize and reconnect, decide then.