My DH took voluntary redundancy from a job he became to hate at the start of the year, the package he received is enough to live on till he can access his pension in 18 months time, I still work full time- our plan is to sell up in a few years and move abroad. Since he gave up work he stays in bed till 11am, then just watches TV, besides walking the dogs (if I’m at work) and sometimes cooking the evening meal he does very little else. He as mentioned having no motivation at present and I realise that he may be depressed, I have grown resentful at having to do the majority of chores at home. Yesterday he was talking about selling and retiring and I thought is this how it’s going to be, so I said what about the now and told him I was fed up of doing most of the day to day things around the house. This caused a massive row, he said I was kicking him while he was down and he never has a go at me (TBF he doesn’t but I feel that I just have to do everything so what is there to have a go at). So was IBU to tell him I’m fed up?