Aibu re exam revision

[Ibelieveinwitches]

My 15yr old dd is in her final year at school. She has obviously started revising but hates reading and writing things down and wants me to ask her questions from books.
Obviously I have no issue with testing her but I've said she must do the majority of work herself as I cant spend hours just asking questions when she could do that herself!
Now I dont care apparently. Am I being mean?

Secondary teacher here. Tough one as she clearly needs help on how to revise. "Writing everything down" can seem really really daunting. He has 11 years worth of schooling behind her to get on the page. Why don't you ask her to do a mind map with you. So the first one you wrote as she talks but then she has to make links etc.
Buy her some revision cards, or just cut up paper and ask her to write some key words for one topic in say history then she has to talk to you about each word, why she picked it, what would another key word linked to it be, can she describe the links.
She will have to knuckle down and do so e writing but at this stage support her in just getting started, honestly if she's keen to go now then that's a MASSIVE bonus! She has plenty of time to build up!!

You're not being mean, but equally I think (understandably) you've maybe not got up to date knowledge on effective revision strategies.

Lots of low stakes quizzing and testing is a really effective way of learning information and I often suggest that students invilve their parents/carers with that. It's still the students who are doing the work and the learning so I think you're being harsh taking the view that she's working less hard by wanting quizzing.

However, there are time pressures on life and it would be unreasonable for her to expect you to sit for hours.

What I'd suggest would be:

1. She picks a topic and makes her own flashcards which reduces information from her books and revision guides
2. She self quizzes on the topic (either by writing down and checking or by talking through the cards without them in front of her and recording it on her phone and ticking off what she remembered Vs didn't)
3. When she's getting good recall on a topic or when she's really struggling, or when you can fit it in, you quiz her using those flash cards

Then she needs to answer mock questions using the material she has revised.

Good luck to her. She sounds like a proactive student.

Get her to look up the Leitner revision method on YouTube.

Quizlet is good for low stakes quizzing if she’d prefer typing to writing.

An exercise book or sheet of paper with two columns -one for questions and one for the answers might be an alternative to flashcards. She can just cover up either of the columns to quiz. If you help her break it down and offer to help get her started she might be ok.

Thanks. School have provided revision cards and made booklets on each subject with questions and answers already.
I will set a time for doing this and hopefully she will get into it and do more herself too. She just caught me at a bad time after a 10hr working day then was lippy about it!!
Thanks for the revision tips though.