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To be sick of them hopping in and out of my garden whenever they feel the need?

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CymaticPrincess88 · 13/11/2019 09:19

Next door neighbour, moved in very recently and immediatly started building works, I have no right to be annoyed about that I know.

Part of this 'work' involved chopping a tree down (he's building a conservatory) and then had to get some kind of mini digger involved to get the stump out. Okay, fair enough. In order to do this he told us (he did not ask) that he was taking the fence panel down, so they could better access it to get the stump out. We felt we didn't have much choice so we said ok.

It's been 2 weeks since the fence panel has been taken down, and they haven't put it back up. We asked them 2 days ago if it could be put back up as as far as we are concerned the reason the fence panel needed to come down was because of the stump and nothing more.

Anyway what is really winding me up is the builders he has hired, keep stepping into and standing in my garden all day whilst they are here, I know its a petty thing to be wound up about it but they are right next to my living room window and keep staring if I so much as glance outside, and if they are in next doors front garden, they stop what they are doing and stare at me, usually while I am putting my SEN DS onto his school transport, it's making me really uncomfortable, and I don't know what to do.

Do I keep bugging him to put the panel back up? Do I have any right to dictate who comes into my garden? I'm sure I do, but I am happy to be proven wrong.

I have generalised anxiety disorder so if you are wondering why I am getting so wound up about it all thats probably the reason

sorry for the essay

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CymaticPrincess88 · 21/11/2019 10:59

Fence panel is still not up, wall is up though so they can't hop in and out any more. I'm more pissed off today because they were doing something whilst perched on the wall, that is causing some kind of deritus to fly into my garden (and bouncing off my living room window) and I've noted that a few of my paving slabs are covered in dried on cement from the wall building.

Should I go round and say something?

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SouthWestmom · 21/11/2019 12:01

Tbh I'm confused by your assertion they are staring at your son when he gets on transport and that he can't be unsupervised but felt the need to say he has SEN but isn't disabled.
Caveat: sensitive parent of disabled child here.

TheSerenDipitY · 21/11/2019 12:12

DUDE!!!! when shit happens go outside, right at that moment and yell at them, then insist they get off their collective asses and clean the mess up , once you stop being so sedate and letting them do what they want they will quit being assholes

PersephoneOP · 21/11/2019 12:31

@CymaticPrincess88 you need to grow a backbone...

CymaticPrincess88 · 21/11/2019 13:02

Special needs does not automatically equal disabled.

Persephone ODFOD

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runoutofnamechanges · 21/11/2019 13:16

Yes, they need to clear up and put right any damage to your property, like cement on the slabs and they shouldn't be on your property or moving things without your permission. I would make sure that they are aware that this needs doing before they finish. There probably should have been a party wall agreement made before they started work if they are building the conservatory/wall on the boundary or needed access to your land:

www.gov.uk/party-walls-building-works/work-tell-your-neighbour-about

If the fence belongs to them and they don't have to put the fence panel back, unless there is a requirement in your deeds, however, you can put up your own fence on your own land instead of the boundary (ie 1 cm over) as long as you don't attach it to their property/fence posts without their permission.

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