To seek your reassurance that my DD is just a typical toddler and not the devil?

[Dumptyhumpty101]

This is a bit lighthearted but I’m really started to wonder if everyone’s toddlers are this difficult, or if it’s just mine.

DD is 22 months old and nothing with her is simple, here are some examples:

She will throw a tantrum if you try and leave the house without putting her shoes on. Why would you want to do that I hear you ask. Because she will take them off in the car every time with out fail and I’m sick of having to put them on her twice every time we go anywhere.

I fight her to change her bum, she then does a poo within minutes, at least once or twice a day. Let fight number two commence.

From about 8months old she’s been able to get her arms out of her car seat, no matter how tight it is. Bought a Houdini clip, worked for a few months until she worked out how to open the clip! She can also open her car seat but thankfully that’s only happened once!

Fight to put her in her pushchair to go shopping. She’ll sit for 20mins maximum , and will than loosen the straps so she can just climb out.

Let her walk, she’ll hold your hand for a minute maybe before she snatches it away. If it’s outside I insist she holds my hand but if it’s a shopping centre for example, she’ll walk nicely next to you for a few minutes and then abruptly turns and runs off in the opposite direction laughing.

Battle to put her in her high chair every meal time. She hasn’t worked out how to get out of that one yet, but she knows how to shuffle the high chair around the room so she can get stuff she wants off the higher surfaces.

There are so many more examples I can give you too.

So please fellow mums, please share you toddler stories to reassure me I haven’t given birth to the devil.

@getthroughthisgrr funny you should say about potty training. She randomly started asking to go on the toilet a little while ago. We didn’t properly tackle it as we assumed she was too young. But she still likes to sit on the toilet when she see it

This is such a reassuring thread! My 20 month old can be such a menace but then is sweetness the next minute. Parenting is such a headfuck! Congrats on your pregnancy, OP. I also have a 3month old and if I had left it until full blown toddler stage to consider having a 2nd, it never would have happened!

Just scrolling through Facebook and this came up. Very apt for this thread I thought.

www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/parenthood/mums/be-kind-to-the-mama-of-the-wild-child-shes-trying-harder-than-you-know/news-story/0e91d2c2a7f9d8a673b4035e8ffe7009

😂😂 You could be describing my darling devil, I think there's always one in every family.. I have to lock my windows to stop her from escaping and stair gates are also a hazard, Iv no advice as I'm just winging it but your post made me laugh.

Snacks 😂, take toys or coloring out with you to keep her mind occupied, I have 2 little ones now 4 & 6 BUT I would let them know what I expected before we went out.
Example : today mummy would like you not to take your shoes off AND if you go all day without taking them off you can choose a game to play with mummy when we get home.
Worked a treat! You can remind them how much u want to play the game & how disappointed u would be if they take the shoes off.
Also at this age they're testing u to see how far they can push you so now is a good time to give her some boundaries

DS is two next week and everything has to be "magic" if you want to get him to do anything. It does work really well but I've no idea what to do when he cottons on.

The answer to everything (unless magic) is "no, go away please", which I'm taking as a win as he is at least saying please

I own one of those too.
I am told the correct terminology is willful!
A micro sized 2 year old escape artist. Opens all stair gates and unlocks doors. Mountaineers up surfaces and is a graffiti pro. Sharpie permanent marker on all gloss white furniture, leather bed,wallpaper, bed linen in more than one room. All this after having already redesigned the kitchen table and perspex chairs with a sharpie (big brother is art student so things seem findable).
Reins are a must. These gave been re named "baby trap" by the crazy mini beast.

@Dumptyhumpty101 I wouldn't say it's too early for potty training. Around 2 years is quite standard for girls dare I say that boys seem to be a bit later. I don't have a girl, but from my small toddler friends sample the girls were a lot earlier and more motivated. Boys around 2.5 onwards and more towards 3. Sort of depends on how long she stays dry for now. I started DS he was often still dry mid morning in a nappy, so was able to not wee for 3/ 4 hours. It doesn't hurt to try if you have a couple of clear days at home. And she's interested.

Normal lol. My son's 2 in 7 weeks and he's very daring/mischievous and crazy. My first was an angel compared. He's a climber, a cupboard opener and an escapist. He kicks me when I change his bum. He takes his shoes off in the street. He has no sense when out walking yet. he will just starfish on the pavement. I find him quite comical to be fair. I like this age. Not easy to pop out the the bin or put washing away though as he races through an open door! X

My DD is 20 months and sounds pretty much the same as yours.

Its hard because I feel like everyone has lovely, angelic, well behaved babies/toddlers and mine screams blue murder if I put her in the pram/try and keep her still/don't let her do whatever the hell she wants.

I'm praying hoping it gets easier soon as I feel run ragged.

I have one exactly the same, he has the face of an angel but is a devil. The relief when I put him to bed some nights.

Just said to DH god help us if the next one isn’t a chilled out child. He seemed to take great pleasure in telling me that our dd is 5% him and 95% me! I have no idea what he is talking about

He is praying for a boy, which will apparently be easier than three hormonal women in one house in future years.

It’s a bloody good job DS2 is cute, he needs a redeeming feature

We’re just through the worst of this stage but it’s bloody tough, I spend my life running after him because he’s given me the slip, if I use a reins backpack he lets his legs go floppy and I end up dangling him from them.
DS1 teacher came to talk to me last week in the yard, as DS2 was having an epic tantrum, on the floor because I’d said it was time to go, all I could say was “you’ve got this to look forward to next year”

DS1 is the most chilled out boy ever, never any bother, slept through reliably from 6weeks, like a PP commented it was all a trick, I got cocky thinking I had this parenting lark nailed

I was this toddler escaped from my high chair once, made it out to the garden and onto the garage roof in just my nappy (not a scratch on me once found). Favourite game when shopping was finding the best hiding places, and then showing other toddlers them too. Regularly shoplifted shiny things and hid them behind me in my pram, to the point I had to be searched before we left any shop.

If it helps I'm a very well adjusted adult now with a DD of my own whos 11wks old, so this thread has been an insight into my future too...

DD was a bloody nightmare toddler. One of her first words was Why? She went through a stage of waking up at 4am that lasted for nearly a year so by 9am I felt like I'd done a days work.You had to put your knee in her chest so you you could strap her in her buggy.She'd kick her buggy raincover until it came off. I'd get judgy looks from people as she sat soaked to the skin in the buggy.
We put 2 stair gates, one on top of the other, at the bottom of the stairs. She climbed them both.
It was relentless.
She's 18 now and My God I'm knackered but she's feisty independent and so driven. I'm so proud of her and I wouldn't change her for the world.
DS came along when she was 3.5 years old and he couldn't be more chilled. We joke that his career will be as a hostage negotiator as with a sister like her,he's been in training all his life 😬

Haha sorry op your post did make me laugh. I have a 2.5 year old and 1 year old...they're absolutely feral.

Only recently I picked dc1 up from nursery...he didn't want to go home...on our way to the car after flat out refusing to walk, I had to carry him which resulted in him hitting me repeatedly in the face with a dinosaur, leaving me with a giant bleeding scratches down my face. At this moment in time everyone else's children were walking beautifully hand in hand, whilst mine was giving me a beating. Then refused to get into his seat because he wants to "drive" the car. Fucking DH letting him pretend to drive at the weekend.

After a solid ten minutes of wrestling him into the car seat he says "yayyyyyyy mummy, we're going home. I love home mummy."

@icanclearabuffet it’s funny you mention about rain covers, DS2 is the same, he could never stand them and would kick and create if I tried to use one, I think he just saw it as another restriction on his freedom

Both my dc were like this.
And actually dc2 didnt like the raincover.
At 1 she used to escape the pushchair.
She also escaped the high chair.
Used to vault over the safety gate.
Is still a runner at 4yo.
I think it is about control.
Luckily never escaped car seat. But did used to scream in it.
I think maybe sensory issues as used to not like hand driers.
Just got to cross any line.
However it does seem to be tiredness as she is better earlier in the day.

My ds was like this. He's 8 now and so well behaved and has been for the last 4 years after we left the toddler stage,