To think you could just reply

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Sent out 10 invites for my dd6 birthday party 1st week back after half term so about 2 weeks ago... only had one reply so I'm assuming the invites were handed out. Party is next weekend.

Aibu to think people could at least have the decency to reply a simple yes or no?

Would I be unreasonable to approach the mums/dads and ask if they received the invites/are coming?

you definitely need to know! definitely approach them

100% approach. Some invites may have gone astray but some people just forget or can’t be arsed to reply. So rude and annoying.

Yes definitely approach them. Did you put an RSVP date on the invitations (if not, lesson learned)? Lots of people leave replying to the last minute.

Didn't put an RSVP date this time... definitely lesson learned

Feel nervous approaching them (I don't know why) I don't really know them other than to pass them on the school run

Yep I always put an RSVP date on

Defo approach them. You need to know!

"Hi I'm Sophie's mum. I just wanted to check if Jane was able to come to her party at the weekend."

... and chances are you'll get mumbled apologies for not getting back to you and an answer either way.

Even with the RSVP date lots of people just don't reply; it's rude, but it's one of those things about parenting.

Right I'll approach some people tomorrow then and ask the question.

I usually get a few replies. Worrying only getting one haha

Letters go astray. The mum's might not even have got them.

Do 10 year olds still have parties with paper invites and stuff? Can't your child ask them?

Did I say 10? Dd is going to be 6

@Singlenotsingle that is a worry too

Every kids party thread I read says people don’t reply, reply yes and then don’t show, reply yes then do show etc...but yet all mnetters condemn this behaviour, so who are these parents? Come hither and explain why u don’t rsvp...(genuinely interested)

Tonight I found an invite hidden in amongst random paper in DD’s bag for a party at the beginning of October, definitely politely ask if they have received the invitation

I think the "replying to party invites" gets better when the DC get older and are invited to smaller parties with children they are actually good friends with. Plus the children themselves badger their friends to reply!
I don't remember having this "non-replying" issue after Year 2 anyway.