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To think a thank you wasn’t needed

13 replies

phoenixrosehere · 12/11/2019 10:04

Walking my kids to school and on the way there was a woman with her dog. There was a road sign blocking the right half of the pavement on a curve and her dog was weaving and about to walk in my path as we approached the sign. I moved in front of the sign so I wouldn’t collide with her dog. I waited til they both moved past and once they were I started to walk again paying attention not to hit the sign with my pram since my son was in the front on the buggy board while his brother was in the seat, the ground was uneven, on an incline with a puddle behind me. I hear her praise her dog and then say as I was moving around the sign “you could say thank you” quite rudely. I turned and said “excuse me, your dog was weaving in front of my path. “ She says I was letting you pass. Hmm She hadn’t told her dog to stop or moved over to the side I was on so no idea how she was letting me past. Hadn’t even said one word to me until then nor did we do the “you go ahead” song and dance. I just walked off shaking my head in disbelief.

I know I should have just ignored her and not answered to her rudeness, but my level of patience was quite thin (sons waking several times in the night for the past two nights due to colds) and not understanding her issue.

AIBU to think a thank you wasn’t needed when she didn’t do anything?

Should I have said thank you regardless?

OP posts:
gamerchick · 12/11/2019 10:06

You waited for her? She's the one who should be doing the thanking

GrumpyHoonMain · 12/11/2019 10:08

You should have told her she was an inconsiderate for prioritising her dog over a woman with a pram and kids. People who prioritise animals over people really make me angry.

NoSauce · 12/11/2019 10:15

Eh? You moved for her. Unless I’ve read this wrong, I don’t understand why you should have thanked her.

TotinEggs · 12/11/2019 10:16

She was in the wrong. Maybe she was telling her dog to say thank you?
I get it, prams can be big and annoying but I’m fed up of having to steer my baby into the road to let oblivious or selfish people pass who then make no acknowledgement of it.

TheMidasTouch · 12/11/2019 10:19

Confusing post. You've put so much info in about the incline, uneveness and puddle but I still can't make head or tail of it.

Were you walking in the same direction and you moved slightly to the right? Were you alongside each other?

Diagrams needed Grin

From what you've said it sounds like you were the one to let her pass. Is that correct? If so, she should be thanking you.

Herocomplex · 12/11/2019 10:19

Don’t let it spoil your day, she sounds as though she had a bee in her bonnet anyway. Small encounters like this can really get under your skin when you’re tired.

Winterdaysarehere · 12/11/2019 10:21

Was actually going to post similar yesterday -
Car jammed me in at an express tiny store. Sat waiting for him to reverse.
He gesticulated rudely as I didn't acknowledge he had moved.
Cf he blocked me in!!

phoenixrosehere · 12/11/2019 10:25

I don’t get it either. She felt she deserved a thank you. If she had let me pass, I would have said thank you. She hadn’t done anything or even said a word to me until after I had let her pass and was trying to get from around the sign.

OP posts:
NoSauce · 12/11/2019 10:27

She obviously thought she was giving way to you for some odd reason. Let it go OP. Some people are odd!

littlehappyhippo · 12/11/2019 10:33

@phoenixrosehere

Of COURSE YANBU. Silly woman this was!

Some people think their precious doggies come over and above everything else, even children.

Sorry, but although I would never wish harm on a dog, if I was driving, and I had the choice between hitting a dog or a child, it's a no-brainer. Human lives always trump animals.

This woman should have moved for YOU (and your kiddie.)

Hopefully you don't see this rude individual ever again.

Beesandcheese · 12/11/2019 10:39

She sounds a bit precious really. You let her go and she expects thanks for it.

phoenixrosehere · 12/11/2019 10:42

@Herocomplex

You’re right. I was just baffled by it. My husband would have said much worse if it were him.

@littlehappyhippo

I hope so. I’ve never seen her before. You usually notice the same people walking about during the school run. Usually most of the dog owners don’t walk their dogs around until school has started or they stay away from the main pavements during.

OP posts:
VisionQuest · 12/11/2019 10:55

Yes we definitely need a diagram. I'm confused by the detail too.

But ultimately if you waited for her to pass then you're not in the wrong and she was a dick.

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