What does he actually mean when he says this?

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Ive split from my ex after 3 years this year. It was a bitter split and currently trying to sort the house as we bought a house together.
I then met another man- very much my type, everything my ex wasn't and is a good man too.
However, he has anxiety and has just had his divorce finalised. He has had a relationship since his divorce/split 2 years ago but told me it ended because he was messaging other girls and has been very honest with a few things with me which surprised me. He has said he's feeling pretty low and unable to commit to anything right now.
Ive said I understand as emotionally I am unsure I can commit too right now. So we've both walked away as I have said I need to go away and repair the hurt from my ex etc and he said he is in the same boat. We've spoken intermittently but always leads to sexting- he tells me he misses my body a lot but tells me he's sorry he can't be what he wants for me? And he hopes I find the right guy as I deserve him?
I find this so confusing- I can read this in many ways. Is it a case of right guy wrong time? Or is he simply never going to be interested? Or he does like me but unable to emotionally commit and is too much of a mess right now and his confidence is shattered a bit?
He has said he does overthink things (which I can do too) and I have clearly told him I'm not looking for a relationship right now so it confuses me that he pushes me a way in one way but not in another....?
The bottom line is I'm happy to be a friend and just support him but he said he has kept his distance because he hasn't been able to give me what I want?

Well, keeping in touch, and sexting isn't helping you to sort your head out.

I suggest you end all contact. Block him if you have to, because otherwise he's going to keep pulling on your strings.

If he told you he is not the man for you then I think you need to believe him, unfortunately. I know it sucks and think maybe you like him more than you can admit to? Been there, awful.

He wants and enjoys the ego boost of sexting. You're free porn. Block and delete.

Block. Move on.

He's saying hes not the man for you because hes making the point that he doesnt want a relationship, regardless of you asking or not. Hes getting that point in early to save hurt later.

Id leave him be.

Walk away!

You’re wank fodder to him.

That’s grim.

Stop allowing him to get off on treating you like a utensil.

Then take a break from dating to learn about who you are and how you’re actually a LOT more great than you apparently think.

You need to find your self esteem, not a bloke!

(((Hug))£

You're one of those 'other girls' he was talking about messaging.

Agree with pp - he’s a player, telling you enough to keep you guessing but when you fall for him he’ll tell you that he never promised you anything. Save your heart and block him.

He doesn't like you enough to want a relationship with you. But he will have sex with you. That's exactly what he means and he's being very clear about it.

Sorry OP but if you meet the right person then you will feel ready. He’s either not actually wanting anything serious or he’s just not 100% sure about you. Situations like this (with all the ‘what is he thinking?’) don’t tend to end up in happy relationships ime.

He missed you body but not you.

Definitely you are a thing to be used.

Yuk.

Forget about him and focus on making yourself whole.

💐

Every man seems your type in early honeymoon days when they are lovebombing and wooing you. So be careful in thinking he is “everything your ex wasn’t”

I agree that he just wants sex with you and no relationship. Based on what he has said, I think it would also be sex with other women too. If that is what you want, then good. But if not, then I would move on.

Men that spout this bullshit are just trying to keep you sweet by being the 'good honest guy' whilst he gets leg over. He's told you he doesn't want a relationship, if you can see this for what it is fine, but don't go getting all confused and wondering what he means....As it's clear as day. But oh he will be all healed & ready when the right one makes an appearance. It's all bullshit he's saying.

There is a book you need to read OP. It's called 'He's just not that into you' I suggest you read it.

He's not that into you.

He “misses your body”?
Reminds me of all the songs in the charts now which refer to women as a body (“I’m in love with your body” etc).
Gross.

You’re a hole to him. I’d block him.

• like him saying he's not the guy for me....that's more of a confidence issue than an arrogant one maybe?

I think it is a way of testing your boundaries.

He knows he is not going to be a lovely partner but wonders whether he can get you to have sex with him anyway, with no need to be exclusive.

Doesn't sound much of a deal.

He just wants sex. Nothing else.

Yeah sorry agree with most of the other people on the thread, he'd like to keep having sex but doesn't want a relationship with you, move on. I'm not sure there really is such a thing as right person, wrong time. If you were the right person, the time would become right imo