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To think we have to pull out?

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INeedBallsStat · 11/11/2019 16:44

We're in the middle of selling our flat to buy a house. The flat has been lovely but is too small, and it's part of an old Victorian villa which needs some love and we cannot afford to do it. The people buying it already own two flats here, and are going to do it all up, get it all damp coursed, new windows, etc.

We thought we'd be completed by October, but our searches showed up serious work on the house (movement, underpinning, wood beetles) that we had to have a structural engineer sort out. Then the people we're buying from told us that they can't move before January 15th as they are in a fixed-term mortgage.

The mortgage is based on DP's income as I started a new business in January. The end game, which the mortgage company were on board with, was that DP would come work in the business with me when it earns enough. But he's been made redundant today. He hasn't been there long enough to be entitled to any decent pay-off.

I think we have to pull out. It feels very risky to keep it going and hope he finds something in time, especially as his sector can be difficult to find work in. I could try and maximise new business, but I'd have no guarantee that I'd make enough to comfortably cover new costs... I could stretch, and we have some savings, but that feels risky.

But so does pulling out. If he can't find work, we can't move. We can't afford to have the flat fixed up to the level it needs to be, really, it's been beautiful but is a complete money hole. So we could end up stuck here, where there is barely room for the two of us... and I'm not getting any younger with regards to kids, we'd hoped to start trying after we get married early next year.

(No point cancelling the wedding, we're too close to get anything much back from what we paid, although we can and probably will scale some things down).

How do I go about this? Just tell our solicitors? Talk to our buyer? The estate agent?

DP is feeling like a complete failure and will want to bury his head in the sand, so I want to make a bit of a plan...

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lifecouldbeadream · 11/11/2019 16:54

Sell the flat and pull out of the purchase.

Rent until you have your situation sorted.

That way you can move on.

Justkeeprollingalong · 11/11/2019 16:59

@lifecouldbeadream has the solution. Definitely sell the flat or you may never find another buyer prepared to do the necessary work. Then rent until things are more settled.

SocksRock · 11/11/2019 17:05

Definitely sell and rent. It won't be an easy sale and you could be stuck for a long time. You will have enough to put down 6 months rent in advance which will give your DH some breathing space to get a job. And a better house may be just round the corner! I've pulled out of two house purchases before now, one on the day of exchange, and we've both times found something way better after a short period in rental.

ActualHornist · 11/11/2019 17:08

Yep. Sell but don’t buy. Best thing all round.

However - if the people you’re buying from really want to sell, they might be willing to pay the tie in fees for their fixed mortgage rather than start the process again.

It’s worth the ask. But be prepared for a no!

dreichwinter · 11/11/2019 17:23

I agree with sell and rent.
You will then be chain free buyers when you are good to go.
If your flat was issue free then staying there might have been the most sensible option but it isn't.

lynzpynz · 11/11/2019 19:07

Do as lifecouldbeadream suggested and sell flat, and rent a small flat. BUT add in buying the house you are going for too using your savings... and then rent the house out to someone else temporarily to cover your costs. When you're ready and all settled back on your feet, move the tenants out and move in yourselves. May put you back a few years but will get all you want, and less risk all round as all bills covered but your rented flat will give you breathing space with smaller outgoings.

Annasgirl · 11/11/2019 19:26

I’m another saying sell and rent. We did this for a few years and it all worked out. Oh you have a buyer for your money pit, sell it.

BBBear · 11/11/2019 19:29

Agree with everyone else - selling is difficult at the moment - keep hold of that buyer!

AnuvvaMuvva · 11/11/2019 19:30

A mortgage payment is generally 1/3 of the cost of a rental payment, though. I'm guessing OP isn't making that much money if her business is just starting. And her DP doesn't have any income.

Plus won't the rental agencies want to see bank statements and payslips? It's not easy to rent these days!

I think selling now could cause you to burn through all the money, just on renting. If you can find somewhere you're allowed to rent.

I'd pull out and stay out. If your buyers already own flats in the same building, they'll be happy to wait until you're back on your feet and in a position to buy, as long as you'll give them first refusal, or do it privately do they can avoid EA fees.

AnuvvaMuvva · 11/11/2019 19:32

Pull out and stay put, until your DP finds a job and has passed the probation period.

ComeTheFuck0nBridget · 11/11/2019 19:35

I'd go back to the people you're buying from and say it's now or never, that you can't wait until January. Surely their fees will be minimal for 2 months? Then I'd move in, budget as tightly as you can while DP gets a new job. I wouldn't rent, it would be a massive pain and probably make money tighter in the short term as well.

Pipsandpops · 11/11/2019 19:51

The mortgage is based on DP's income as I started a new business in January

I would imagine the mortgage company would withdraw the mortgage offer if DP is now redundant so the decision may be out of your hands. Have you informed them of the change in circumstances? If not you should ASAP and go from there.

Justkeeprollingalong · 27/11/2019 18:58

What did you decide?

foooookinghell · 27/11/2019 19:21

Wouldn't sell myself as you will be off property ladder

mrsbyers · 27/11/2019 21:39

Can’t the people you’re buying from just transfer their mortgage to the next property ? That’s what we did and had no redemption that way

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