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AIBU To be emotional about this

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Deyes999 · 11/11/2019 14:15

My 13 year old daughter just called me from school all excited that she has just got her period (she is the last one out of her friends to get it). When I got off the phone to her I felt really emotional that I don't want her to have it yet. I know it's stupid but 1. I suffer terribly with mine and always have and don't want her to have to deal that and 2. My baby is not a baby anymore! I know I am being ridiculous but I didn't expect to feel like this. Don't worry I will be smiling when she gets home from school and she will never know. I just wondered if other mums felt like this or am I just being weird.

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Bezalelle · 11/11/2019 14:34



eternallybaffled · 11/11/2019 14:36

Ha! I was a little deflated that my dd wasn't a baby any more and this was the start of being a woman. It was my sister that did the crying for her!


mrscampbellblackagain · 11/11/2019 14:36

I think it is a little weird - I would understand if she was 8 but 13 is a good age I would have thought. Although I do agree periods are a bit shit but it is nice she is excited.

And in the words of Oprah 'you are entitled to your feelings' :)


Confrontayshunme · 11/11/2019 14:37

I think lots of people get emotional at different things with kids growing up. I shed not a single tear leaving my eldest DD at nursery or reception, but randomly cried the day she caught the bus by herself. Have a Brew and remind yourself that her development is positive even though it feels like a loss.


Funnyface1 · 11/11/2019 14:39

Literally just realised that my 3 year old will have a period one day. Yanbu. It is kind of emotional, the passage of time, a chapter closed. I get it.


Deyes999 · 11/11/2019 14:46

Thanks guys I'm alright again now I know, I probably was being unreasonable to be upset but it was just my initial reaction that shocked me, I got off the phone and cried my eyes out! I am due on myself in a few days so that has probably not helped as I do get very hormonal!

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RainyAfternoon · 11/11/2019 14:50

I get you. As pp says, different things get different people but we all have to adjust as our kids move away from only needing us. I really struggled with dd1 leaving primary school. I felt that the bubble of her lovely childhood had been popped. But life goes on, and she’s still gorgeous. Give yourself a hug!


KellyHall · 11/11/2019 14:53

I don't think it's unreasonable to have mixed emotions at any milestone!

I would encourage you to have serious talks with her about contraception though. I had really painful and heavy periods which were largely eliviated by going on the pill.


hoorayforharoldlloyd · 11/11/2019 16:11

My mum was unfortunately vile to me when I got my period, she found it threatening. So you are fine - you feel emotional about it but she will never know. Have your cry and then give her a hug when she gets in.


ISmellBabies · 11/11/2019 16:14

My dd's started at 9, she was/is still just as much my baby as she was before. It's not the curse you know! Grin


ThatMuppetShow · 11/11/2019 16:22

of course YANBU

yes, it's a good thing they grow and are healthy bladibla
it's still human to feel a bit upset that it's another era gone.

Plus some of us have such shitty periods that I wouldn't wish them on anyone. I take my eldest daughter to an acupuncture clinic regularly to try to prevent same for her- so far so good.

If they really suffer, absolutely worth pushing the doctors to investigate, might save her from wasting very valuable time when she is an adult and trying to get pregnant (that's in the future of course,)


Pinktornado · 11/11/2019 19:37

My mum was over the moon for me and wanted to celebrate. I remember being a wee (hormone-fueled) grump and just wanting left alone Smile

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