[Shudder]
Member of an expat community for the past 10 years or so. A friend (now moved away) and I actually started up the group which has been expanding over the years. As we all have no family nearby either on the mum's side or on both sides, we try to help each other out where we can. So when babies were born, organising a meal rota for a couple of weeks, handing on clothes and books etc.
We have also done it when a DC or a parent has been in hospital for whatever reason. Visited, organised group gift, meals, transport etc.
Except five years ago, when I was in hospital. Everyone knew as I was at a birthday party the week before, No one visited, no cards, no messages apart from one from my best friend.
I shrugged it off, continued joining in with everyone, birthday gifts, meal rotas, hospital gifts etc.
This year, the same again. I was in hospital and out of action for a few months. Two people visited, my best friend and one other (who, I must say, I hadn't expected to visit me). No messages, nothing. When I bumped into someone it was all "oh my god, how are you? I heard you were in hospital...."
Now a regularly smoking member of the group is in hospital for a virus &asthma attack. Having posted a huge rant on Facebook about how she can't rely on people helping her out. A group has been set up to sort out gifts and visits and everyone is saying "thanks for letting me know, I'm going to reach out to her."
AIBU to not reach out and just ignore it all? Leave the group and distance myself? I'd kind of decided in my head to say fuck the lot of them unless it was one of the two who visited me who needed help. Facing the situation in real life is slightly different to what you think you might do though. Am I overreacting?