Does the adulation fulfill forever

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Out of interest , if you knew someone who must feel adored and cherished , just to feel good about themselves , and have a willing partner , does it last? The. adulation I mean?what happens when that adulation dies away with such a person?

I think you've got the wrong forum OP....

Why?

What are you talking about ?

Presuming I've rightly understood...

There's a reason "familiarity breeds contempt" is a saying

Depends on the degree of adulation vs the degree of contempt

The people that I know have affairs to find it elsewhere, or it ends and they find new partners, even if they ignore a lot of bad behavior.

I know people that deliberately pick vulnerable partners, so they are continually worshiped.

So do I pp and that is why I asked. I wondered if a person who needs constant ego stroking and worship can be happy with the same person when the first flushes due away after months or more often when a baby comes along or in your experience, do they find someone new to replace that previous adoration?

They will always need a new "flavour of the month" and continuously be seeking a new thrill elsewhere. Having the same person stroke their ego will become dull and repetitive!

In my experience, they'll always be chasing the boost so no relationship ever lasts, they're ways looking for the next person.

Someone who needs constant ego stroking will never be satisfied with what they have.

if you knew someone who must feel adored and cherished , just to feel good about themselves , and have a willing partner , does it last?

I think people like that are best kept at arms length. As PP says, they are never satisfied. They are also entirely self-serving and will not hesitate to trample over you.

I agree with the familiarity breeds contempt idea.
I personally think the full on/adoring /can't do anything wrong sort of stage lasts when the relationship is fresh, fun and not living together stage.
Things become more realistic after that and you still love the person but see them as human and someone who is not perfect

I ask as I am going through a difficult time at the moment and a friend, who I believed to be close, hasn't really cared by action.I have explained to him that I don't have much space at the moment as I am concentrating on my family and our problems, yet he continues to bombard me with self serving messages, looking for approval and congratulations on his achievements , which could, in context seem to be minor and not of greatsignificance eg winning a five a side football game for example.I see that these are significant to him but When I don't respond with gushing and fawning and heartiest congratulations, he will continue to send more messages and photos of himself in various superficial circumstances basically telling me how great he is . It's made me realise that I have been stroking his ego for some time despite him having an adequate supply from his family and female friends and girlfriend.Itd also shown me that it really wasn't a mutual Friendship to begin with so that's been a let down too. I expect he will give up on me now that supply isn't meeting demand.