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Original poster

To wonder why an ex has unblocked me on WhatsApp?

28 replies

Auba14 · 10/11/2019 11:21

It’s a bit of a strange one. And rather childish which I’m trying to avoid!

Me and an ex split up around three months ago, it dragged out a bit and two months ago we agreed we had to stop and go get our heads sorted out before we could look at either dating each other or anyone else again.

So we deleted each other from social media and I was blocked on WhatsApp. The only way we could communicate was via iMessage and we had a couple of messages about six weeks ago, then I sent a hi how are you message three weeks ago and it was ignored. So I just left it and assumed they were over it and fine now and didn’t message again.

However I’ve been on WhatsApp yesterday and noticed I’m now unblocked. Ex doesn’t use it much other than to talk to me, and the way they go online and offline, it’s like they’re still watching my usage like they used to. So wise Mumsnetters, why would my ex unblock me to then not say anything at all to me? No way on earth am I messaging first, and in an ideal situation I’m sure we’d both love to work things out, but unless ex is hoping I’ve realised and message first, I’m stumped to why they’d do it.

OP posts:
HappyPunky · 10/11/2019 11:22

He might have got a new phone? I think to block someone on WhatsApp they have to be blocked on your phone so if he's got a new one maybe that's why.

ColaFreezePop · 10/11/2019 11:32

Just block him or even better delete his number from your phone.

Nicknacky · 10/11/2019 11:34

Why are you watching his WhatsApp so closely?

And he is probably messaging someone else and is not online looking to see if you are.

WorraLiberty · 10/11/2019 11:35

It probably means he's over you, so doesn't need to block you anymore.

It sounds like you two need to stay away from each other, or risk being caught in a merry-go-round of splitting up/getting back together.

Original poster
Auba14 · 10/11/2019 11:40

Glancing a couple of times is hardly watching it - and it’s a device I use to message all of my friends. We don’t use anything else. And you can see you your main screen typing and then no message arriving.

However you are all probably correct and thank you for your wisdom. I’ve deleted and blocked the number now Smile

OP posts:
DamnShesaSexyChick · 10/11/2019 11:42

Why are you trying to hide the sex of your ex?

Original poster
Auba14 · 10/11/2019 11:45

Why are you trying to hide the sex of your ex?

What on earth does that have to do with you or the question I was asking? Does it effect your life and judgement of the situation in any way if I write he, she or they?

OP posts:
LellyMcKelly · 10/11/2019 11:48

Block and move on. Delete numbers. If it was working you’d be together.

MumW · 10/11/2019 11:49

Why are you trying to hide the sex of your ex?
I suspect it is just the way that the OP speaks. Why does it matter anyway - it has no bearing on the issue being discussed?

WorraLiberty · 10/11/2019 11:49

Blimey, it was just an idle question from the PP I'm sure.

Nothing you've written will ever affect anyone's life on Mumsnet Confused

StillCoughingandLaughing · 10/11/2019 11:51

Why are you trying to hide the sex of your ex?

It isn’t really relevant, is it?

dontgobaconmyheart · 10/11/2019 12:09

How do you know you're unblocked OP?

No offence but it does sound a bit like overthinking and you do sound like you aren't letting go at all. You obviously broke up for a reason(s) so why is it that you would assume you'd both want to get back together in an ideal world? Or that that would be a good idea. You've not spoken to him in a few months really- that is a long time and he could think anything now, or be dating someone else.

He blocked you, didn't reply to your other message, hasn't called or messaged since, he presumably knows where you live yet hasn't written, sent flowers, turned up- maybe he just feels three months is long enough after a breakup that there's no need to block people anymore.

It sounds unhealthy OP, you need to deal with this based on what you actually have, which is the above, not a narrative based around your feelings for him or a sense that if anyone were brave enough to just say they wanted back in, it would happen. There's no romance in an inability to communicate, a good relationship wouldn't suffer with such or be so bad someone is blocking someone else.

Sparklesocks · 10/11/2019 12:12

I think you might be overthinking it slightly. You’re exes for a reason regardless, I would continue to ignore and you’re right to block and delete

PumpkinP · 10/11/2019 18:54

Probably wants to talk but wants you to message first

Morgenrot · 10/11/2019 19:07

Why do you care?

JenniferM1989 · 10/11/2019 19:12

It does sort of matter if the unblocker is male or female as there tends to be patterns with the sexes and their reasoning for doing things. An author didn't make millions writing the book 'he's just not that into you' because there's never a pattern to male behaviour. Surely if there wasn't, they'd have written 'they're just not that into you'. These posts bug me anyway. Just bloody use he or she and people can relate and give advice rather than it being a bloody game of guess who

PinkBalloon123 · 10/11/2019 19:16

If you want to work things out don't block him OP! Don't message him either, just leave it be and if he wants to get in touch then he will.

Nakamarra · 11/11/2019 05:58

He might have got a new phone? I think to block someone on WhatsApp they have to be blocked on your phone so if he's got a new one maybe that's why.

This most likely. Strangely, certain settings within WhatsApp do not pass over when you have a new handset. This has to be done again manually. Your ex may not know this. In the grand scheme of things, they have not been in touch. I'd say that speaks volumes Hmm

BrickTop999 · 11/11/2019 06:05

I used to have an on off relationship like this. We’d argue block each other, then one would unblock as though waving the white flag and one of us would message
Went on for around 2 years lol
Then fizzled out

CupoTeap · 11/11/2019 06:20

Please delete their number.

User3421090989098 · 11/11/2019 06:32

Stop overthinking and game playing.. it doesn’t matter who messages first in an adult relationship, but him unblocking you means nothing if he wanted to speak to you he would! Save yourself the hours of anxiety and second guessing and move on with your life.

Iggly · 11/11/2019 06:39

Delete his number.

You can always write it down somewhere if you really need it for emergencies.

DowntonCrabby · 11/11/2019 06:52

Block him. An ex is an ex for a reason.

userabcname · 11/11/2019 07:46

I'd assume they are now talking to someone else tbh.

userabcname · 11/11/2019 07:48

Oh that makes no sense - I thought you meant they'd deleted then reinstalled WhatsApp. Ignore me!

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