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Dracula9 · 10/11/2019 11:18

Long time here first time poster. So basically I have been with my partner for 12 years. One child. The past couple of years sex has completely dwindled to the point now where the last time we had sex was in April. I have always had a normal sex drive. I enjoy sex who doesn't. But he just doesn't want sex. He blames it on the medication he is taking. I know he is not cheating as he is unemployed and doesn't leave the house. I have brought up the subject many times but he always turns it into an argument and says I'm obsessed with sex and sex isn't everything. I get its not everything but I would be nice every so often. It's gotten to the stage where I resent him over it. I'v told him to see a doctor he refuses. I am late twenties and don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone that doesn't want to be intimate with me. We don't kiss cuddle or do anything at all intimate. I'm at a loss and don't know what to do anymore

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habipprtyh · 10/11/2019 11:40

He is unemployed and doesnt leave the house

I suspect this is your problem. He is depressed or unmotivated. Why does he not leave the house or have a job? If he can’t is there anything he can do to get him socialising? Being out of touch with the world is lonely and it’s no surprise he isn’t up for sex.

savingshoes · 10/11/2019 12:16

I agree with habipprtyh.
Low libido seems to be a symptom of his problem.
I would give yourself a deadline though. If you do not want to live in a sexless relationship then you need to get your ducks in a row and then leave if things don't improve by a certain time period.
I don't think it's fair to you to be in a relationship with someone who isn't even willing to be affectionate or concerned with your happiness.

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