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DS drop football and try something else

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Bluewall · 09/11/2019 21:55

My DS who is 8 plays goes to football training with the local team. It has only ever been a fun pass time to him he doesn't ever play at home in the garden or much with his friends but he really likes going and wants to go no matter the weather. He is not great at it but has fun. There are definitely 2 groups the little boys running about with their friends and the die hard football fans.
Recently some boys have been picked to go play against proper local football teams youth team and there has been lots of chat (despite a lot of us not being involved or bothered about) . We have also just been asked to spend a lot of money on a training kit for the kids to wear when training but not at matches. The kids will be moving into an older league in the new year as well but I'm not sure what this entails.

They train twice a week and play matches on a Sunday. My son often asks to join other activities but I have said no as with 3 days of football and swimming lessons I feel that's enough (plus his brother does 2 days of football and swimming)

I have chatted with him that we should maybe give football a break as it's all getting a bit serious and I feel more for the 'football mad' kids which I think is a shame. I have said he can try some of the other things he has asked about instead. He says he wants to keep at football (and do the other things !)

Would you inisit we stop the football or keep going and pay for the new kit etc

The only other idea I had was we stop one night at football and try something else for a couple of weeks but if he wants to keep it on we stop football ? (We would still have to pay the full football fees so I wouldn't want to do this long term and not sure the coaches would he happy with that either)

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BlueGingerale · 09/11/2019 21:57

3 times a week for something he’s not serious about is a lot.

Are there other football clubs that only train once a week?

Rugby is once a week......

Waveysnail · 09/11/2019 22:08

Standard practise round here for youth teams is twice a week and weekend matches. Your life will be overtaken by football and there will be no room for tober activities tbh. I'd say his decision

Bluewall · 09/11/2019 22:13

I think 3 times is to much. I have said if he stops football I'm happy for him to take up 2 other activities. It's our local team and really popular. All of his friends go which I think is the real draw for him but he is always excited to go and had never once said he doesn't want to go even if it's snowing ! He just doesn't care about football when he isn't there. (Most of his friends are also in the just running about for fun camp too)

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Patchworksack · 09/11/2019 22:16

I think three times a week is a lot. It's a shame that a lot of kids' sports clubs seem to get more and more competitive as they get older and there is no emphasis on participation for fun without having to train every day and aim for the Olympics. Unless football is his passion I'd encourage him to try other activities and see if you can find a club that has a kickabout once a week.

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Bluewall · 10/11/2019 09:35

When they first started out there was lots of chat about how this group was for everyone who wanted to play not just the hard core but it is slowly changing as they get older. I don't think there is a group that just let's the boys play football with their friends without joining leagues etc

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Bluewall · 10/11/2019 09:36

I feel like I am going to be the bad guy for making him stop when he loves to go but I also don't want him to miss out on something he might enjoy more when I have a feeling he will be pushed out of the football club within a few years as he is not up to the standard of the 'main players'

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RandomMess · 10/11/2019 09:50

Is the club large enough that for his age group they can have a 1st and 2nd (recreational)? Your son can't be the only one that would be happy with once per week and of a less proficient standard?

Bluewall · 10/11/2019 10:27

It is a large group so I could suggest that. There is a parent's meeting in a few weeks and I know a couple of parents are not keen on paying out for the training kit so that will be discussed. I also don't want to seem like one of those parents that doesn't contribute anything but has lots of ideas of how to give them more work Grin (I volunteer in the PTA at school but have absolutely no knowledge of football and would probably be worse than useless )

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RandomMess · 10/11/2019 10:34

It may be that the recreation team covers a 2 school year age group, sometimes people need to be reminded that sport can just be about fun and being part of a team!

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