Would you take personally advice given about kids

[Confusedadvisor]

Good evening,
I’m not the kind of person giving out advice on parenting or else as I know each parent have their own rule. But in this situation need to know if I’m BU.
Sister in law is breastfeeding her 1.5 year old DS and often feeds him milk instead of food during lunch and dinner. She said it’s very normal and all he needs, but I noticed he’s been moaning for food a couple of times whistle they were at my house. She’s always going out during lunch time and will only give him milk so make him sleep, on a regular basis, doesn’t bring any lunch or food for him to have.
Not my business her son is growing fine. But when I sat with my DD (10 months) giving her breakfast, lunch and dinner she made comments that I’m being too rigid and baby doesn’t need 3 meals a day and she was adamant about it; making comments about 3 meals being too much for a baby in general.

It’s my first child but I know that she needs the food and eats very well.
I just smiled at my sister in law and fed my baby.
Now AIBU to tell her that a child should have 3 meals a day and that breast milk is great but is not enough or just leave her to her comments?
Thanks!

What do you want to get out of the conversation? Do you think she’ll listen to you, suddenly change her ways and agree?
Honesty it sounds like a quick way to fall out with her

That's actually quite a tough one because what's the chances of her actually listening?

Next time she comments I would ask her where she is getting her info from as NHS guidelines do say that from 12 months a child should be on 3 meals a day (providing there are no medical problems of course). The meals don't have to be big meals, but breastfeeding will no longer be giving the child everything they need

I think if she’s making comments about how you are feeding your DC then she’s fair game - 1.5 year old shouldn’t have meals replaced with milk for no food reason. The breast milk should be in addition to adequate amounts of food - generally three meals at that age, you can’t make up your own ‘rules’ about milk replacing solid food (unless you have a really fussy eater and are worried they aren’t getting enough calories) - it’s just a stupid thing to do. Sounds like she just cba to make lunch for her child. If a fool like that started telling me how I should feed my child I’d go to town on her quite frankly.

Tbh I'd tell her, because at 1.5 it is not all he needs. He does need food too, with breastmilk alongside it.

She has seen fit to tell you that you don't need to feed your baby a certain way so I'm not sure why you cant say anything back

Maybe offer up some easy recipes? Is she a bit worried about choking maybe? I knew a woman who still gave pouches at 18 months!

Next time your sil brings up your feeding choices, perhaps say “I think that as we have a different approach to this aspect of parenting, for the benefit of our relationship we should put a veto on this topic”.