Name change. Semi-regular and he may identify himself here if he looked.
Partner gets random text.
‘Hi, am in town next week with a couple of mates. Are you around? Where’s good to go’.
No number. He instantly acts a bit oddly and uncomfortably. I’m cooking and not really paying attention. Carry on chatting.
Few minutes later he puts the phone down. I ask him if he’d found out who the person was, assuming he’d had a response from a ‘sorry, who is this?’. But he’d not sent a ‘sorry who is this’ message which is what I’d have done - but whatever.
He says oh I’ll find out tomorrow and we leave it.
Everything’s great and relaxed normal evening.
Lunchtime today, he’s on the computer and says I don’t have that number in my contacts. So I say ‘send a message back, asking who it is’ and carry on doing my thing. He starts getting really fidgety but sends the message and then starts saying, I think it’s a bloke. It couldn’t be a blocked number could it? I’m not sure who it could be; it could be Pain in the arse friend but it doesn’t sound like her, and he started getting really snappy and was really on edge. I asked why Pain in the arse isn’t in his phone contacts anyway? She has been for as long as I’ve known him. Again more snapping ‘well she causes arguments so I deleted her number’. She doesn’t - I just think it’s fair for me to say after a 3 year relationship, she’s a pain in the arse with her demands on his attention and she is (another story). So he carried on being snappy and tense. I ask him why he’s so panicky about this and then my alarm bells start jangling ‘fuck, he’s hiding something’
He gets a message back and it’s his mate’s brother. I see a sigh of relief from him and then he starts ranting that I’m a liar.
My teenage DS is walking in to the kitchen and partner makes no attempt to stop calling me a fucking liar, and that I’ve been exposed and I’m out of order.
He doesn’t live with us. I asked him to leave of course because he carried on and wouldn’t apologise. Sat like an arrogant shit watching the football on his laptop.
His behaviour was bad in front of teen, that’s not in question.
But the behaviour around the text and what sounded like panic and projection in response, was I being out of order to wonder what the actual fuck was going on?