Is the going home outfit really such a fuss?

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What's everyone's thoughts on this?

I'm due next month and I'm on Facebook groups with others due.

I feel like there's so much pressure around a 'going home' outfit with everyone sharing their pictures of the outfit they have ready for coming home.

I'm generally just curious - did you make a big deal of a going home outfit? Or did it not matter too much?

I just packed a couple of cute baby gros. Baby went home in one of them. It actually became more important after - I kept the gros for sentimental reasons.

This is a thing now? Jeez

It's been a thing for at least a couple of decades.

Choosing a nice outfit for taking the baby home, I really can't see why anyone would get worked up about it.

*Cute baby grows and that’s all. My last kid came out so fast she looked like a Neanderthal (had that puffy head/nose ridge thing on the go) so we could have put her in anything and she still would have looked terrifying 😂😂'

Lots of babies look like this.
People used to look at mine and say aww aren't they beautiful or whatever. Am I thinking, we looking at the same baby? 🤣

They've begged me to never show them to anyone. Ever. Don't even mind the really embarrassing ones. But those, not a chance. During the horrid teen years, these pictures were mentioned more than once 🤣

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Get sniffing the talk. Way cheaper and less stress.
I know it's not really good for us, talc, but better than the alternative 😂

My DS poonami'd in his before we left the hospital so he went home in a tatty second hand sleepsuit. DD was too small for hers so she went home in something totally different. I cared not in both cases as I was so excited about bringing my baby home.

Just lovely cosy babygro, cardi and hat. No need for any more fuss!

Had an outfit but DD was so small nothing fitted her. In the 'going home' photos she is swamped by massive newborn clothes

Not a new thing at all. DS was huge, about 10 lb and looked like a three month old from the get-go. I was in hospital for 10 days after a C-section, he fed v. well and put on more in that time. 30 yrs ago.
So about a day or so before we were discharged I became aware that the 'going home outfit' was a thing. Panic.

He was gorgeous of course 😆 but not exactly a cute and tiny newborn. All I had was a pastel striped hoody in lemon, blue and green (but new and expensive - DM had bought it!) and a plain white babygro while all around me the 6-7 lb cuties were going home in pretty, coordinated/matching outfits. And a nurse was taking photos!
Ridiculous to panic in hindsight but hormones, peer pressure et al... Mind you the photos still look lovely and are probably better for not being too fancy-shmancy.

I did, but she puked on it 5 mins before leaving the ward.

no, i took outfits. I could hardly walk and baby was covered in a huge blanket as it was freezing .

genuinely couldn't have given a shit, i was in agony lol

I did the coming home outfit thing. Not a proper outfit, just a babygrow and matching hat but it was the one item of clothing that I bought new rather than was given and I enjoyed choosing them.

Yeah we did have one. My husband chose it. Lots of fertility treatment and ivf etc. When I was about 6 months pregnant, I found him in John Lewis all misty eyed looking at a little outfit. It seemed to mean so much to him to buy it so we did.
Obviously he'd gone into the wrong section and a newborn baby was never going to fit in it but I think it was his first way of really believing this was finally going to happen for us.
We hung it off the curtain rail when I was in labour. Every single midwife commented on how it wasn't the right size. I could have killed them! (obviously I had other stuff in my bag)
When I was whisked off for crash c-section and everything looked pear-shaped he sat and cuddled it.
Never throwing it away!
So choose one if you want one or don't worry. Once the babies here though you're so knackered you don't have time to enjoy the lovely outfits. And the thought of going to shops might make you cry.

I had a nice sleepsuit (a JoJo one rather than standard multipack)and matching hat to go home in. It was nice for both of my babies to go home in the same thing and I’ll keep it forever.

I had one ready, DD projectile vomited all over it and herself...

So not sure I made my point well. Yes we were silly and sentimental and buying stuff that wasn't necessary etc. But for us it was important. We also bought a baby bucket. Used it a handful of times. Really daft. But I always smile at the memory of how excited we were that we were going a bit silly. So in that sense it's priceless.
With my sensible practical hat on, I wouldn't advise anyone to buy a baby bucket new.... But everyone should have a baby bucket moment!

Seriously, fuck the social media bullshit.

Mine all came home in a nice new babygro and lovely new blankets, no need for anything fussy. We have a photo of dd ready to come home from hospital on the wall, she looks perfect in a pink babygro and looks so snug and fresh with her lovely hat and cosy blankets. almost makes me broody again.

I just bought my DS a nice cardie to go over his white sleep suit. Not that exciting but I enjoyed the process of choosing the cardie.

I chose a nice first outfit for DD but I’d had a horrendous HG pregnancy and it was more about cheering myself up by buying something nice, I’ve kept it to show her when she’s older.

I’ve bought a ‘special’ babygro for all mine when leaving the hospital to come home, usually one a bit nicer than I’d usually buy and with a matching hat. You definitely don’t have to but I enjoyed it and have put the hat and babygro in their memory boxes

When I packed my hospital bag the babygros I put in were my favourite ones, and there was one really cute outfit that I’d chosen early on that I decided she would come home in - a super soft dungarees-come-babygro thing. Because it was cute, and I liked it, and I was excited.

My mum kept my going home outfit (in the 80’s. Def not a social media thing) and I loved looking at it as a child, so I’ve done the same for DD. She did wear it quite a bit, it wasn’t specifically for the journey home.

If you want to choose something particular to bring your baby home in then do it. If you think it’s a waste of time, then don’t, just throw anything in the bag. It’s entirely up to you. I didn’t post any photos of DD in that outfit, and it was nothing out of the ordinary or expensive. I’m personally not a fan of some of the over the top fussy items I’ve seen some people go for but if someone likes them and decides to post pictures, so what? They really aren’t hurting anyone.

There’s a hint of superiority in some of the previous posts, suggesting that if you in any way care what your baby is dressed in and do anything other than pick out a second hand babygro while blindfolded then you are ridiculous or ‘chavvy’ . DD was a very wanted baby, I’ve looked forward to being a mum since I was a child myself. I enjoyed picking out cute outfits, it was exciting. Loved washing them all and having them hung out in the line. I know it doesn’t matter what a baby wears as long as they are warm. I buy second hand, hate consumerism and waste, and, now she’s 2, I very much go for practicality. However I don’t think taking some pleasure from dressing your child makes you a lesser person or means you are mistaking your child for a ‘prop’.

My daughter came home weighing 3.2lbs. I had to borrow clothes off the neo natal!!! I don’t even remember what it was now

Second child the same. She came home at around 3.6lbs. But I had clothes left over from previous premature baby. Though it was only a baby suit thing

To be fair, most parents have a lovely nursery, full of pretty clothes and toys waiting for the baby to arrive. As you need them in your hospital bag anyway, most of them will have chosen a few outfits.

It only gets ridiculous when someone has to go on social media to ask if the most appropriate "going home outfit" is the white babygrow with a duck and the white babygrow with the horses because it's too hard to chose

Little did I know there would be a competition for whose gift would be chosen as the "going home outfit", which I had never given a moments thought to. Traditions are strange and powerful creatures.

I got excited when I found out we were having a boy so bought one, I put it on him even though it was huge because he was premature
My 2nd just had a baby gro and a snow suit as it was the end of November and freezing!