Smashed mirror AIBU

[majormumma]

A couple of weeks ago we had one of those nights, toddler was screaming, dinner was an epic fail so I decided that we were going to get out whilst we still could and drive to the local pub for dinner.
When we were there my husband told me in a fit of rage (he stubbed his toe) he’d head butted my mirror, it was nothing special but my late mum had bought it for me and it was quite handy to have, plus it reminded me of her. Now, we have other mirrors in the house but husband said he’d replace but I’ve heard nothing of it since, I know money is tight so I don’t know if I should bring it up, I definitely don’t NEED one, it would just be nice . I’m just a little peeved, aibu to expect or at least half hope I’ll get a new one without mentioning it?

He headbutted your mirror - That's indicative of some anger management issues.

Does he break things in rage often, or is this the first time?

Does he ever smash his own things in rage, or just yours?

As in he deliberately headbutted the mirror smashing the glass?

If so, I think him replacing it is the least of your worries

No, never before. I think he’s struggling as working 60+ hour weeks and he’s tired. I think he’s frustrated with his life (probably a bigger issue lol) but just sticking with facts on this one

He headbutted your mirror in anger?

Replacing the mirror is the least of your problems.

He head butted the mirror because he stubbed his toe? Yeah. That makes sense. Total overreaction. Does he always get angry like this?

Yeah I think the mirror isn't really the issue. He was so angry over stubbing his toe he head butted a mirror? That's not normal behaviour.

And he should def replace!

Yeah, agree total over reaction, he isn’t coping well. I understand that, just not sure where to go next! We’ve only been married since September

It's (sadly) extremely predictable that when he "lost his temper" the object he destroyed was one belonging to you. It wasn't something of his, something that had sentimental importance, or would have inconvenienced him. Nope, it just happened to be something important to you.

I'm sorry about your mirror, OP. Yes, he should definitely replace it, and is there any way to salvage the broken one? Maybe use the frame for a picture, or even use the shards to decorate something?

Replace the mirror in the frame and replace your husband while you're at it.

Wow, the mirror is the least of your problems. What kind of weirdo goes around headbutting things in anger? Is he a goat?

Also agree with FineWords that it's interesting he broke something special of yours, rather than something of his, or an item you had no emotional attachment to.

Sounds like 60-hour weeks are taking a real toll on him. You should also be on alert for any other red flags in terms of anger issues, because headbutting a mirror is really concerning behaviour.