AIBU to wonder what your opinions are

[peakygal]

On Grandparents having a relationship with Grandkids...Should they be the ones to make the effort to keep in touch with GCs, age and health depending of course, or is it the parents job to do all the communicating etc?

Grandparents definitely need to show interest and form a relationship.Parents however need to help facilitate this.
Be welcoming. Treat them as an extension of their little family and be inclusive.
A lot of grandparents relish the role. Others sadly don't.

Isn’t it a two-way relationship?

I don’t understand the voting options. What does YABU mean in this case?

Sounds like you’re a pissed off parent.

I don't understand why you think it would be either one or the other. It should be a mutual, two-way thing, like all relationships.

I’d say it’s 50/50

Apologies I didn't realise I put voting on..No not pissed off but genuinely wondering because I have even started questioning myself...

I'm a widow...3 beautiful daughters...DHs parents make no effort at all to see DDs..Don't even ask how they are despite having numerous ways to contact..Both use social media quite a bit.
They came to see youngest DD last week and it was the first time in 11 months they were in my home. They say they're never around my hometown to visit yet I see them quiet frequently when out and about...Both drive and live an hour away..I don't drive myself. They told me that they don't bother because I don't keep them updated on a daily basis about DDs..That I should do all the communicating etc. DH died a few years back and I tried so hard to keep in touch but really it was a waste of my time. I do try to make contact every so often now but I've all but given up..I was wondering am I wrong and they right? Should I essentially be chasing them? I thought they should want to have a relationship with GCs...Shouldn't it be 50/50 when possible

It should be an all round effort from both the grandparents and the parents.

Gosh sorry for your loss. But I bet they struggle to see them as they remind them of their Son. Very sad