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WIBU to say something if I see this man again?

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Stealthymcstealth · 08/11/2019 10:00

Yesterday I hurt my back, was unable to walk without holding onto things, couldn't bend etc. This morning I took some co-codamol and did the school run, which is a 20-30 minute walk each way, having to avoid getting jostled or having to sidestep people.
On the walk back a man was approaching me and evidently wanted me to move, I was walking close to the curb and he was more in the centre of the pavement but he veered so he was walking right at me whilst glaring at me! I put my head down and kept on course, he moved at the last second but I had to lean my shoulder back to avoid being knocked into the road. If he had knocked me and forced me to step off the curb my back would of given out and left me stuck on a busy road with cars going 40mph.

Would I be unreasonable to say something if I see him again? It was right outside of a school so it is possible he was a parent and I may see him again. I have played patriarchy chicken quite a bit this last year (I used to practically jump out of the way for people!) and credit it for being able to do the school run without my back giving out but I have never encountered someone who was quite so aggressive!

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Sandals19 · 08/11/2019 15:00

few days ago and a man leaned out of his van window and screamed in my face. He didn’t say anything, it was just a scream designed to freak me out

I've had this - they want to see you jump, look scared - usually in front of other men in the same van ... Presumably because it's funny to them and makes them feel big (or like have a bigger cock or something).

Sandals19 · 08/11/2019 15:07

Op not quite the same but when I wax heavily pregnant and hobbling/waddling with pelvic pain, a man (who did f realise I was pregnant) walked behind me, mocking my gait, in order to amuse/entertain his friends who were on the terrace of a bar/restaurant he and his female partner had just left.

Since I think he didn't know I was pregnant, I presume he thought it was an elderly, or disabled person or something along those lines and did this for amusement in front of them and his wife/gf. One of the friends realised I was pregnant/realised I'd seen him and had the grace to look uncomfortable.

But wtf sort of friends/gf does he have who'd think that was ok or funny? He was incredibly pleased with himself, all cock of the walk, as he got into their vehicle.

Having physically mocked a pregnant or elderly or disabled person to an audience.

Stealthymcstealth · 08/11/2019 17:24

I'm trying to think if I have ever seen a woman openly intimidate or mock a strange man?

I found myself drawn to the feminism board today (can't think why Hmm) and came across a topic about women being strangled by men who then claim it was just rough sex gone wrong and actually get away with it, it's horrifying and I am actually a little annoyed with myself that I was surprised to be intentionally intimidated by a strange man. How the hell was I surprised at such a minor act of aggression when women are being murdered and the men responsible are getting away with it by essentially saying "she wanted it".

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