Small birthday present?

[NooNooMummy]

Dilemma: Do I give DD a big, over the top, unasked-for birthday present?

DD (age 5) has birthday soon. She's asked for a particular doll. It's a pretty disappointing looking thing. I've also bought a massive house thing that the doll and others can play in - am sure DD will love it and get lots of play out of it. But. It's a plastic monstrosity. And it feels over the top. And like I'm spoiling her, spending too much... Christmas is coming up and I'm planning another big present (bike) - also unasked-for.

Should I a )!return the plastic monstrosity? b) give it to her for Christmas and forget about a bike till next year? c) what the hell, just give her everything - she'll love it all and get loads of use?
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If you've already bought it, and know she will get lots of use out of it then let her have it. I always feel like birthdays are more special than Christmas, so a big present for a birthday makes sense.

As for the bike, I wouldn't get it as a main Christmas Present, especially as she hasn't expressed any interest in one. As realistically she won't get much use out of it until the spring.

And it feels over the top. And like I'm spoiling her, spending too much...

I like spoiling my kids at Xmas and on their birthdays. If you can afford it, I'd give her the house for her birthday as well and still get the bike for Xmas. I'm sure she'll love them.

It’s not her fault her birthday is the month before Christmas!

Give her the present.

Lol! I was expecting lots of sensible answers like 'No, I bought a massive house and I've always regretted it...such a waste of money... takes up too much room... gathers dust... they don't need it...'

Seems we all love spoiling our little ones as much as we can. She's going to love it!!!!

It’s not her fault her birthday is the month before Christmas!

Exactly! My kids' birthdays are just either side of Christmas (as are most of our family and friends' birthdays for some reason) and it would never even occur to me to scrimp on one occasion at the expense of the other just because of the timing. How mean and bizarre.

If you can't "spoil" your own child on their birthday and Christmas, when can you?

Spoil her, I’ve just had my birthday, and even 40+ years later it’S a kick in the teeth guy it it to be minimised because it’s close to Christmas. It’s not even that close.

I'd give her the bike for Christmas with her birthday being so close she'd miss out on it for another year. By the time she gets the hand of it she'll be up and running by the summer on it!

Give her the dolls house it will make the day special and fits with the present she asked for.

The bike I personally wouldn’t bother, I regretted getting one for son when he was 5, he was just not interested and I know so many other kids who were the same about theirs.