7 years ago my partner had, what I can only describe, as an emotional affair. She lived across the road from us and they worked together, and I slowly watched their friendship bloom into something else. As time went on I told him I was uncomfortable, and he truly started favouring her over me. I just knew there were feelings there, but the more I protested the more he moved away from me. Now it's a long story but it all ended very badly, with both of them losing their jobs and she moved away. Me and partner split for a while but weve worked really hard on our relationship, hes never given me a reason to worry since, and while some people may not be able to forgive and forget we managed to get through it.
Shes moved back to the area. Not just to the area, but almost my neighbour. All the horrible feelings of that time have come flooding back and it's only been one day but shes already playing mind games with me by sending her boyfriend to my door to ask to borrow tools! At the time she had no grasp on the damage she did, and it seems she either still doesnt or knew all along (I mean, who leaves love notes on another man's desk at work 'just as a friend'?) And is making her presence known?
Now I know my partner takes a huge portion of blame, I'm not one to just blame the other woman. But we worked so hard. I feel like I've been punched in the stomach.