Work / divorce related stress

[SqueakyHalloumi]

I've been signed off for (work related and divorce related) stress and anxiety. I handed in the doctors letter today and I can barely manage to raise a smile I feel so numb, but my DC need me so I have realised that to get through this I need to concentrate on my own health (mental, physical, emotional) so I can look after them.

Currently going through utterly awful divorce and reeling from all sorts of crap going down.

Boss has piled on pressure despite their alleged "understanding" of my situation (last evening after a scheduled day of leave, texted to ask when I would be making my hours up this month...) and has, since receiving doctor letter, sent messages, emails, texts, WhatsApp's, tried phoning me and is now at my front door.

AIBU to ask her to leave me alone whilst I have my small breakdown, and come back when I'm ready?? What's the general feeling after being deemed "unfit to work"? I just can't cope anymore. It's all so overwhelming. My house is my safe place. Do I need to provide a further explanation given they know my life is utter hell at the moment??

At your front door? That's ridiculous. Don't answer.

It would be normal for your boss to agree a scheduled 'wellbeing' call at reasonable intervals if you're going to be off for a while, but you shouldn't be being hounded in this way. YANBU at all.

YANBU. I'm an occupational health nurse and what she is doing is appalling and clearly has no understanding of how to handle your health and this episode of absence, despite initially being supportive. A drs note is not legally binding therefore you can work before it runs out if you feel able to. Not because your boss wants you to. Do you have someone higher you can go to if necessary, above your boss? You're sick and should not be made to feel this unnecessary pressure.
It would be quite reasonable to schedule the odd meeting/chat with your boss throughout any period of long term absence in my experience however you're still in early days and your boss is acting unprofessionally.

Thank you so much @ScreamingCosArgosHaveNoRavens and @bluebell94 - it is really helpful to know I'm not being ridiculously precious about how bad I'm feeling right now. I just can't face anyone.

Part of the reason I'm so stressed is due to the continued pressure and mismanagement - they are the boss / owner / MD - it's a small company, and whilst I understand they may feel they want or need to show concern, part of the issue has been their style of handling my role. For example, they brought me into a meeting about 6 weeks ago with all my colleagues, and said we were all at risk of losing our jobs, and that we would be getting letters at the end of the day signing us off on 3 weeks unpaid leave. I followed up the meeting with "what would you like me to focus on for the rest of the day before the three weeks unpaid?" And the response was "oh, I didn't mean YOU - you're not going."

I understand it's tough in business at the moment and the political uncertainty is causing all sorts of problems. I understand also that my divorce resembles Brexit (the length of time it's taking...), but to pull the rug out from under us all like that and THEN tell me my position isn't one of the ones being hit? I can't cope anymore. It's just so overwhelming.