Do we all enjoy a good scrap on a thread?

[MrsBlobbys]

This is lighthearted fun.

Do we all enjoy a good verbal fight now & again?

I do sometimes then I feel bad & go back to apologise sometimes

I recently had a good scrap about a dog tread then I felt bad afterwards

I used to. I don't anymore, when you know you're right theres no point banging on about it to posters who choose not to see it.

To make it a bit more fun if anybody feels like sharing a particular thread participation regret

I’m way more harsh than I need to be. But then I do feel unreasonably frustrated at a lot of threads, mainly from people complaining about other people. The simple solution to most threads (I think) is for the op to simply stand up for themselves. I feel like giving some people a good shake

No I don't.

I hate it when a poster jumps down someone else's throat just because they disagree with them. The Brexit and politics threads are appalling. Civility is just not there.

@Raphael34 some people need that shake

@Raphael34 totally agree, the virtual shaking doesn't seem to get through to most though.

Someone told me to "get a grip" adding "talk about dramatic" in response to an entirely reasonable point I'd made on a thread recently (most posters agreed).

I'm ashamed to say I bit back a little bit, which I shouldn't even have done because it's just not worth engaging.

But I hate it when people post "get a grip", it's just so rude!

No way. Like everyone else I like to get my point across but I’d rather not get into an argument with posters.

I like a heated debate but not throwing silly insults,

I like a good debate, but not an argument.

No it's tedious but some people post some really poorly thought out bullshit that shouldn't pass without challenge.

I enjoy at good debate where people raise valid points to a side of the argument that I havent considered.

However these are few and far between and it quite often boils down to bitchiness/name calling/sarcatic comments. So mainly ill just leave it.

A good lively debate is great but the problem is that some posters are so vociferous in their views that they then become rude and aggressive to anyone who doesn't share it - the whole thing becomes tedious then and I tend to hide the threads because I can't be arsed to get into thread ping pong. I'm open to hearing other opinions but many Mumsnetters can't seem to debate without being insulting

The worst are the OPs who post for advice - a debate ensures and because they don't like what they are hearing they flounce off

I don't mind a good, curt, shut down if someone is being a twat.
I hate a prolonged row of a massive derail, worse is a pile on.
Ok be sharp in AIBU but don't be deliberately nasty. Other topics are as blunt though.

Nah it's just keyboard warriors trying to get a rise out of you, I completely ignore them.

No it's boring. It's also boring when the OP hardly posts or disappears.

many Mumsnetters can't seem to debate without being insulting

This is more and more the case.

Healthy debate is interesting and healthy disagreement is fine.

What I find irritating is when people share a range of experiences on whatever topic it is and then some posters decide that if the experience or opinion doesn't match theirs that the other views must be wrong / ignorant / a sign of internalised misogyny / bullshit and resort to being insulting.

Eg. In a debate about hobbies, people might reasonably point out that there's no reason why BOTH people can't have their own downtime and hobbies. Some will always turn up whining about "cool wives" and how there's no way women ever get to have their hobbies or a man who does his fair share.

I prefer not to but if someone really wants to mix it I'll sometimes step up.

I've been called a dick for robustly exercising my right to reply though. Odd that some posters seem to expect a tart comment or reprimand to incite nothing but cowering and forelock tugging

I don’t like it, but I can and will stand my ground. There are some people on here who find it hard to swallow the fact that others have different opinions.

Debate is great, and I've enjoyed a few really thought-provoking ones with considered points of view here over the years.

Unfortunately, they're rare and many posters are often falling over themselves to throw the first punch. The trying-to-be-clever, PA af comments are grating as well.

I'm no fan of pointless confrontation, and MN is full of it. People chucking insults over bloody fabric conditioner and the like.

I used to bite if a pile on occurred with a user and it got nasty - but then I ended up being the subject of a pile on and realised I had drawn it to myself because the thread was already full of frothy posts and I tried to inject some reason... it did not go down well and I got drawn in like a twat. Realised that I should've just stayed out of it all together after I calmed a bit (thanks to DH taking my phone away after he saw how visibly annoyed I was getting - he was right to do so 😂).

Now I just find it tiresome, I prefer a healthy debate but they seem to be vanishing these days and even if a thread starts in that vein, it devolves into nastiness pretty quickly.

I tried to inject some reason

A calm voice of reason draws a lot of fire on the average MN thread .

Yes and No. I enjoy a debate, even a heated one. What I cant stand is posters that go on and on about the same point, or try to pick apart the OP. They think they are 😏 but most reading their posts are thinking oh FFS shut up.

Judging by some of the harsh comments on here I don't think I would like to meet a lot of posters in real life but I do reckon that there are plenty of keyboard warriors online and they probably wouldn't hurt a fly in real life.