To be sick of being used !

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Having a bad day.
3 phone calls today. Not to check in and see how things are , just to ask favours....again !
MIL phones for medical advice, no mention of Gc's she hasn't seen or even enquired about in months. Everytime I see her number I know something is wrong. Never to see how things are, it's quite infuriating .

The next call, from a friend , asking to take her kids after school for a few hours, again ! Not heard anything in ages from her , just when she needs something .

Final call from DSis asking me to pick something up for her in town, now that I don't mind too much, I was going anyway.
But it got me thinking, do I say yes too readily? Am I a walk over ?

For some reason today I'm irked by all this . Another day I'd be delighted to help. Just feeling a bit used . It seems like all take and not a whole lot in return .
AIBU fo feel this way, am I just wallowing ?
I could have ignored calls/ said no but then the quilt would set in.
It would be nice to get a call for a chat, a catch up with no other agenda !
I have friends who do phone just to check in , which is lovely, just these 3 can really take advantage .
Vent over probably need

I’m a walkover so have no advice. I feel your pain, I’m trying to work on it, but it’s habits of a lifetime.
Hopefully someone will come along with some pointers, but YANBU to be fed up.

It's OK to wallow.
Enjoy asking for favours back though

Ask for a favour in return and if they make an excuse as to why they can't, then you have your answer.

I'm the same as you. People dont tend to get in touch with me unless they want something and dont get me started on my work. Wish I had some advice for you OP.

I have experience of this. I like to helpful where possible but it got to the stage where I felt people asked things of me just because they knew id say yes. I started saying no to some stuff (not all) even if it was stuff I could have done. It was just to make a subtle point really. I found I got asked for favours a bit less.

Thanks everyone. Yes, today I'm just annoyed at myself for being such a "yes" person. I really need to start to say no, especially when things don't suit me and I feel people are just taking and asking because they know I'll always say yes .
Hard to break the habit of a lifetime, glad to know I'm not the only walk over in the world !
I'll start small and go from there .

Parky04 , I know the response will be ....oh sorry I'm busy , oh sorry I'm not available etc, that's the annoying thing .

Definitely. Sometimes, it makes you feel fab to help out. It just goes past the mark with some people. Probably mostly you like to help? Fine line between being helpful because you want to and being used.

Do you ever ask for what you need/want? I was like this and felt resentful but then realised I never asked for help, so people didn't know.

You need a new screensaver on your phone. You need it in both locked and unlocked modes to remind you. Can you guess what it is???

I like that screensaver