Kids party drama

[Monst3ra]

We arranged a party for DS2 (6 years old), it was a small tea party at our house so I said a maximum of 5 children could come. DS chose his 5 and invites went to the teacher to put in their book bags the on the last day of school before half term.

Party was at the weekend and kids went back to school on Monday.

Yesterday one of the mothers of the children invited told me that another mum whose child wasn't at the party was not happy that her child hadn't been invited and she has also approached 2 of the other mothers of party children to express her annoyance that her child was not included. I collected DCs from school yesterday but don't remember seeing her for her to have the opportunity to speak to me.

I don't take the DC to school in the morning but I have now heard through another party child's mother that she was in the school playground dishing out invites to her child's party at the end of the month and missed out the children who were at DS's party. I'm not really bothered about kids parties so it really doesn't matter (actually I dread them but DH and I do take turns to take them so the DC can join in). She was also telling another parent that her child had chosen to invite DS despite him not being invited to his birthday, and that it was spiteful to only have parties in the house!

I am not the sort to say anything (I can't really believe I'm even posting on here about this) but how do I handle this? I wouldn't say anything unless she does. If she had approached me directly I wouldn't have minded politely explaining that we are pushed for space and couldn't invite a class full and DS was left to invite who he wanted, but I'm a bit miffed that she's giving the mothers of the party kids a hard time!

I suppose what I'm asking is if I was BU to go with DS's choice of guest list? But why wouldn't I?

Also asking for any ideas on how to respond to her if she does approach me this afternoon about it (if she doesn't I won't be going out of my way to explain myself to her!) I'm not good with confrontation and she is a bit scary!

This is all really odd. My eldest DS has never fancied a party and this is the first one I've organised so never had any party related issues before now!

I'm not sure there is much you can do to be honest. At this stage it's very much he said / she said.

I do think she is being unreasonable, if your child hasn't been invited when the rest or the majority of the class was invited then fair enough to be annoyed they've been left out, but with a get together of 5, I dont think most people would expect to be invited

I think she is making herself look crazy so would just try and rise above it

Hi

I have been through something similar a few years ago. We had a Wakey Warehouse party and the maximum we could invite was 15. Obviously we could not invite the whole class. I know I was gossiped about and I am sure someone did approach me. I just replied that we only invited so many.

Personally I would rise above it and I would not confront the parents gossiping. I have known on another occasion, not my child, where the situation has got out of hand and the end result was violence. I would not want to see anyone in that situation.

I am sure this woman will have an axe to grind somewhere else soon and will move on.

I think this will all blow over soon.xxxx

Gosh. She sounds a bit batshit and over invested. No idea what I would do. It's all a bit embarrassing for her though. I would try to avoid the gossip because who know how true it is. Some people like to make shit up to stir the pot.

Thanks all. I was quite anxious going to collect the DC this afternoon but there was no sign of the annoyed mum. I expect it will all be forgotten by the end of the week.

She's a nutter. The other mums will think she is unhinged if she carries on talking like this. Don't worry about it.

She’s a dick.

The only response is no response. She is looking for drama.

I just wouldn’t say anything to anyone. She being crazy!

You need to completely ignore her. Just be grateful you found out now how batshit she is and avoid at all costs. How dare she try and dictate where you have your child's party.

Shes making herself look like an idiot, I really wouldnt get too worried about this.

She’s a dick.

The only response is no response. She is looking for drama.

This.. don't feed her hysteria

If she approaches you
Look bemused
Ds wanted a party at home so could only invite a few. Sorry and walk away shaking your head at the madness