Should he be helping more?

[LokiGunn]

This is my first post and just looking for some comparison to other people’s routines.
My DH works full time and I work 3 days a week, our DS is 2 and a half and goes to nursery the 3 days I work , I do all the nursery pick-ups and drop offs.
Every morning our DS wakes up anytime between 5am – 6.30am and usually at least once in the night, I am the one who always has to settle him in the night as he cries and gets more upset if DH goes in. I also get up with him most morning (DH will sometimes get up with him on one of the days I’m working), I give him breakfast and get him and myself ready for nursery and work. DH sleeps until he has to get up for work around 7.20 and we are all out the door by 7.45.
Once a week his work pattern changes and he will work 10am – 7pm instead of his usual 9am – 6pm. On these days he sleeps in until at least 8am, by which time myself and DS have already left the house. When he gets back in the evenings DS is in bed already and the dinners done, on these days I’m exhausted!
He does pull his weight at the weekends and we share the bedtime routine when he is home in time during the week.
AIBU to ask for more help in the week when he works full time?

It's not called "helping". It's called "parenting". And yes he should be sharing in the parenting

Wow he's really taking advantage of you!! I'd put that to an end right now and refuse to allow him to weasel out of parenting

mmm, I am on the fence. I work three days plus two evenings, plus one day on the weekend. (full time, but odd hours, two jobs and one day per week is two-shift, one for each job, which is a 12 hour workday.)

I do all school pickups, washing, dinners, activities, housework and get up with the children and get them ready and out the door (3 children). I still have time to myself. I also do all bedtimes except the evenings I am at work. DH has them on the weekend day I work, so does pull his weight.

That said, I do not have the wakeups you do (although some nights I do not finish until midnight)

DH gets up at half seven (I am up at 6ish), teeth, shower, and then leaves. TBH I do sometimes wish he does more, so I feel what you are saying.

Then other times he might and it screws up my routine!

So I think it is time for a chat with your DH and see if you can come up with a routine that suits you both.