AIBU to want baby number 3

[Scuzzymummy]

I am 39 with two gorgeous children both in school and we have enjoyed recently being able to go on holiday and start to enjoy some relaxing time. We both comment frequently that it's lovely they children are able to play without us and we can enjoy ourselves. But I just can't shake this feeling I want another baby. I am one of 7 and the middle child so always had lots of siblings. I love our noisy Christmases when we are all together. Family is everything to me.
My husband takes medication which means there's a high chance of birth defects. So he would have to come off his medication and deal with the potential side effects of that. I know the sensible part of me says it's a dreadful idea and two is great, easy to share the work etc... But there's this niggle!!! What do I do?!?

Honestly? Ignore the niggle, enjoy your kids and your life and your husband’s health.

We all have to live with the things we would like to do in a perfect world. But in the real world we make the best decision we can for our curcumstances. I have a lingering desire for a springer spaniel. But with cats, working in the day and a small garden, I have to accept I can't have one. You say your dh doesn't want any more, it would damage his health to have one, and at 39 you are starting to head into dangerous territory fertility-wise. Believe me miscarriages are no fun at all and trisomies are worse. I would be saying appreciate what you've got, even though it may not be the same as what you grew up with.

YABU. Quit while you are ahead. Don't you think it is being a little selfish making your husband stop taking his medication just because you want a baby?

Yes. YABU

Give your head a wobble. Risking your husband's health to have another baby when you already have two is madness and entirely selfish.

Enjoy the two you have and being able to give them more time and resources than if you have 3. Enjoy being able to have some time for yourselves.
And I say that as a mum of 3 (born when the older two were 7 & 4)

Thanks MN this is probably what I needed to hear. Just to point out I wouldn't be risking his health, there are alternatives he could take it's just these are the ones he is on. But yup I am going to just enjoy my wonderful two children and all the freedom we now have with two schoolies!!

It will pass the older your kids get. It’s honestly so much fun just walking out the door and saying “toodles! Be back later!”.