Do you put blame on other parent when accident happen?

[Mummywife]

I don’t know how to feel so wondered if anyone else had any thoughts/advice?

My DS (15 months) has fallen and hit his eye socket on the side of a coffee table. He cried for a few minutes then back to his usual self. It has come up in a little bruise.

Last week he also bumped his head. Tonight my DH has told me that if social services knew they’d take him off us and that perhaps DS should be going to nursery as he’d be safer (than with me)

I’m really upset by this. I couldn’t have foreseen DS falling, nor can I be there to catch him every time he does fall. AIBU to be upset by my DH comments or is this my fault?

We made an agreement never to place blame on each other for any accidents. If you trust your partner you know they will have always done their best to protect your child. That's it.
Sounds like your dh needs some one on one time with your toddler, so he realises what you are dealing with. He doesn't sound very kind.

Ask him what is he going to do the first time his son comes home from nursery with an injury? Or having been bitten by another toddler.

The only scar on my son's face (he is 22) is from when another child at daycare threw a toy at him.

Plonker. How dare he say you are an unsafe mother. Is there some backstory here about his own upbringing?

My DD came home from nursery with a huge swollen nose. She was dancing. Worst we've had at home is multiple leg bruises.
Nursery is probably more likely to have accidents than at home- they've got more to watch! And kids can injure themselves in an empty padded room. SS would definitely not be interested in your DS banging himself a couple of times!
Is you DH always this mean? Does he just put DS in front of the TV when watching him? Kids need to be active and take small risks to develop.

Ds2 had an a&e trip last week when he blacked out after falling off a chair. He's nearly two but truthfully is WAS my fault as I stepped away to grab some glue for ds1. It was a lapse of judgement on my part which had consequences. Dh said absolutely nothing. No criticism. No complaint. Nothing. He supported me in making sure our child was ok

Is your husband emotionally abusive? Sounds like he is.

Wow I never knew jackasses could talk but there you go proof positive!

Perhaps he would like to show you how it should be done, maybe he could take over for a couple of weeks seeing as he is such an expert!?

Let me guess: you do basically all the childcare and he gets to play Disney dad and come home from work to play with him for 30 mins and think of himself as a 'great dad'? Pretty sure he'd change his tune if he had to actually after look after his child as well as presumably do all the chores you're expected to do for any length of time.

I can’t actually believe he said your child would be safer at nursery than with you! That’s a really nasty thing to say, OP, I’m sorry.

As others have said, I assume he doesn’t care for her alone very often? As soon as they start crawling it feels like it’s accident after accident, you just go do your best to avert them where you can! It doesn’t sound like there’s anything you could’ve done to avoid this bump, so please don’t feel bad.

My daughter launched herself headfirst off the sofa when I was home alone with her and had a sizeable bruise, but DP went out of his way to make sure I didn’t feel guilty and to reassure me that accidents happen. As yours should’ve done!

Deeply unpleasant - and unrealistic - comment. Was he attempting a joke? My twin DC walked at 15 months and for a while thereafter I couldn't manage a week without one or both of them wearing bruises. It's harder to keep up with two. I admit I was waiting for SS to turn up on the doorstep but it never happened.

Leave your DH in sole charge for just half a day and I guarantee he will wind his neck in.

Goodness no. Accidents happen

Just make sure when your dh is in charge and dc has an accident you grill his arse.

What an absolute cunt face.

I bet he’s never looked after him alone.

One of mine is currently sporting a nice big bruise from a fall off his bike. When I told DH, his only response was “oh no, is he ok?”.

Agree with PP that your DH’s utterly bizarre and unpleasant reaction is the only problem here. Kids have accidents, FFS! It’s a very normal part of how they learn to negotiate the world around them.

Your DH is being very hurtful.

My DS used to be so accident prone till he got to about 16 months old, this included 2 A&E trips but we still didnt have social services on our case as accidents do happen and it's all about the nature of the accidents.