To ask what to do?

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Namechanged.

I've posted on here before about my son (19) and that he's a single dad to a little girl (aged 2) and her mum isn't involve. And about me being fed up with him because he was taking drugs or drinking. I got the advice to call ss. So I did so he could get some help from them etc.

They have spoken to him. He shouted at me that I shouldn't have told them as he was sorting himself out. And he's left and I think he's staying at his friends. He said when he finds his own place I won't see granddaughter again.

Granddaughter is very upset as she isn't seeing him much and when he leaves she cries.

Can I have some advice please? 😞

Contact Social Services. If he's walked out then hasn't he abandoned his child?

He said he is looking for his own place. He's been seeing her a few hours after work or he takes her out when he's off (only works a few days a week).

I remember your story - why have you namechanged? Would it not be helpful to link to your previous post?

What did SS say to your son? What did they also advise you?

I had to make a new account as I have forgotten my password and I don't use my old email anymore. So I don't know what to old username was to link it.

I'm not sure what they said to son. They told me they would try to support him and told me to try to as well.

What do you want out of this, OP? The way things are going, you could be left with the dgc to look after. It doesn't sound as though your DS can cope. He might not be able to get anywhere to live, only working part time. And tbh, he doesn't sound capable anyway.

I dont know what I want out of this.

When he doesn't drink or take drugs he is a good dad. I don't want to look after he permanently though as I want him to and granddaughter does as she is upset because she isn't seeing him much.

He told me he's saving. He is only working part time so he can spend more days with granddaughter so I don't have to have her everyday whilst he's working until she goes to nursery.

He's walked out and left you with his child. his claims about saving but also only working part time contradict each other.
Do you receive the child benefit or does he? If he does, what does he do with it?

I know its tough but the only thing you can do is contact SS, and decide if you want custody or not. Stop enabling him and think about the child.

He was working part time when he was staying here as well. He gets child benefit. He used to spend it on drugs and sometimes alcohol but not sure if he still is or if he is actually saving.