To be upset about Birthday?

[MayTheLordOpen]

It's my Birthday tomorrow and I don't speak to my immediate family so won't hear off them. My Husband and I are having some money issues at the minute and with it being not too long until Christmas I said not to worry about presents as long as he gets me a card.

Last night, he ordered me a card from Moonpig which is thoughtful. However, as he did it after the post time it won't be here for 1-3 days so may/may not be here tomorrow.

I feel really ungrateful as he has gone to the effort of doing this for me but I will not even have a card from him on my Birthday and he is the only one that will actually bother so I feel really sad about it :(

You have every right to feel sad about it. I would too.

Just popped on to say it's my bday tomorrow too! Happy birthday xx

It’s my birthday today, my son aged 5 has bought me a ‘bizzy bubs’ doll, my husband said it’s what he chose for me 😂 I’m 35 going on 5! BE glad you’re not going to have to fake play with that for the next few days.

awww Happy Birthday Why did he tell you he ordered it from Moonpig, is that not supposed to be a surprise?

Well you will just have to tell your dh to make you tea and toast in bed ( or similar) in the morning or do something else to make you feel special in case the card doesnt arrive, just let him know your a bit low that the day could go unmarked and want him to do something. If he doent know he cant help.

We have family birthdays end of november and in december and i know it can be a bit crap as so many people think i'll see them right at xmas, its hard with cash, but im sure he could get you a bar of your fav choc or a doiughnut with a candle in it.

anyway have a happy day tomorrow and fingers crossed the card will arrive...

There's a good chance it will arrive tomorrow. Stop feeling sorry for yourself about something that hasn't even happened yet!

It isn't that sad really, you may not have a card,, but you have your husband there instead !

@GameSetMatch how sweet! I’d pop it on my dressing table and smile every time I looked at it! Op, YANBU. I’d be upset, too. My DH has done something like this in the past: I said to him, it’s not as though my birthday changes date every year is it? Not like I sprung it on him! I wouldn’t make a massive deal out of it, but I would let him know that I was disappointed. Act like it’s all fine, and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment every year.

I ordered a card from moonpig late yesterday afternoon and it arrived this morning. Hopefully your husband is as lucky and it arrives tomorrow and is more organised next year!

Why didn't he just buy a card off the shelf if it was going to be late? He sounds a bit shit to be honest

Honestly some of you .....

Of course it's ok to feel a bit sad ...or maybe a better word is disappointed.....let's hope it does arrive and if it doesn't ..or even if it does....go out and buy a the yummiest danish or cream cake and a glossy magazine ....make a coffee and and give yourself some Birthday Time.
Have a wonderful day ...whatever it may bring xxxxx

You are NBU, everyone takes mental stock on their birthday. A friend of mine goes out for the day on her own, doing something she likes but wouldn’t otherwise make time for or spend money on. Take the reigns and do whatever you want/can to mark your birthday from now on (ignoring the fact that ideally, your DH would be a bit more proactive!) Happy Birthday for tomorrow x

Happy birthday for tomorrow OP! yes I'd be feeling down about this, such a shame your DH couldn't be more organised, unless there is some reason he physically couldn't go and get a card.

Happy birthday for tomorrow. I’m sharing it with you too! My Dh will have got me a card this year as he forgot last year and I was a bit . I just hope he’s taken the dcs out to buy cards as they’ll be really upset otherwise.

@MayTheLordOpen happy birthday! I hope you have a nice day.