How to shut this down. Grey rock not effective.

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I've posted before about a man with whom I got very close.Nothing extraordinary happened, he met his now girlfriend and our contact went from multiple times a day to once or twice a week.
He continued to message intense stuff for six months or so after meeting his girlfriend. Suddenly, he stopped contact and months later told me that he felt it was time to pull
Away. I completely agreed and told him that the contact from him was verging on inappropriate ( following advice on here).I believe, for many other reasons ,that his girlfriend figured that he was in too much contact and made him end the intensity.
Moving on two months, I've continued the grey rock advice I received but he has now upped his contact, looking for praise, attention, affirmation. He is not getting anything from me which is frustrating for him and for me . Perhaps he is missing the ego boost.His relationship is committed and serious I believe. So what now? Thanks for reading.

I am single.

I think he misses attention and his relationship might be comingvaway from the blindlove stage ? Just a thought.If not me, then I'm sure there is another woman to pester.

Block him for all private contact (just because you work together doesn't mean you need to be friends on face ache or whatever) and tell him to back off at work or else you will go to HR.

Why do you keep posting about it?

It's almost as if you still like him and enjoy the drama/attention. Anyone else would have told him to fuck off by now.

OP, just be honest with yourself. The fact you continued to talk to him after he got a gf is very telling. But it's time to end it. Block, delete and move on.

You do enjoy the messages and creating drama, OP. You've posted numerous times about this now when you could stop this easily by blocking him. What you are getting from this is a mystery though, he's seeing someone else!

Is this the Asda car park and he hasn't text me yet today and it's 8am poster?

OP does his name begin with N and have a christmas theme?

You could tell him if he messages again,
'I will no longer going respond to messages from you as I do not want to have personal contact with you. If you wish to talk to me about any work related issues, please do so in the work place'

In this way, you are letting him know what you are planning to do. Then if he still continues to message, you can block him. Job done.

I've noticed that you keep putting yourself down by saying you are weak, you're a walk over, you're a coward etc..also that you hate a bad atmosphere, hate confrontation.

Firstly why do you perceive yourself in this way? Do you really feel this way about yourself?
Second, why are you the one who has to be responsible for appeasing this man? Or placating or keeping things smooth? He's the one who's trampling all over your boundaries and being inappropriate. Do you think he cares about your discomfort or creating an atmosphere? Or how you might be feeling? Or if you feel violated? He doesn't care! Otherwise he wouldn't continue doing this.
You don't need to tip toe around him and make him feel that it's alright for him to behave like this and what...you just have to suck it up and be 'nice' at work.
No! He's the one harassing you! Who cares about stroking his ego or making him feel better or worrying that you might create an atmosphere?
Bottom line is how does it make you feel? It's very simple when you can see what you will and won't accept. You tell him your boundary, he chooses to ignore you or respect it; if he ignores you...block and don't respond.
Now if there is a part of you that is gaining some sort of validation from his attention, that's a different, slightly more complicated story. Even if this is the case, none of this will come to any good (the contact), so the best action is still to block.