Don't know where to start or post with this one, so thought I'd try my luck here. I'll try and paraphrase without drip feeding...
DS (age 13) has ASD and we've had a lot of things go wrong in the last couple of years, we were made homeless, we"ve had 2 very close bereavements, DS was being bullied pretty badly in his last school, started refusing to go, so I removed to him to home school as a last resort. The SEN there gave me no help whatsoever despite me contacting them numerous times. The council then decided to prosecute me for his poor attendance in the weeks leading up to that, I have a solicitor and it's due in court shortly.
I recently moved applied for a place in the school near here. The council then lost his file meaning he was off for a further 5 months. He started 3 days ago and was looking forward to a fresh start and chance to do his GCSE's. They knew about the previous bullying and have put SEN support in place for him, all seemed to be going well.
I got a call at work today to say DS had been assaulted by a pupil. Today was apparently his first day back after his 7th exclusion. He had been punched at least 8 times, his lip has been split, his nose was bleeding, his face is badly bruised and he has bumps on the back of his head where it was hit against the wall. The school were apologetic and said DS didn't instigate this or fight back, and that the boy involved has again been excluded. They've taken statements and it sounds like some friends of this boy have stirred up trouble saying my DS had been saying things about this boy, they are all now apparently denying this.
Then it got even better.... apparently, this boy lives next door to us. I've seen him about about and knew he went there, but have had no other contact with him or his parents, I keep myself to myself. I've had a few concerns about them as I've heard the Dad being violent, as well as threatening to other people, but I haven't said or done anything as I don't want to bring any trouble to my doorstep.
The property I am in is housing association, there are 6 houses and we all moved in at the same time. I spoke to the boy and his Mother, they are both blaming the other kids and a teacher for 'stirring things' as well as the boys ADHD and 'anger issues'. They both seem to now accept my DS didn't actually say anything about him, but seem to be of the opinion that he can't be blamed for what he did given that he'd been told my DS had been spreading rumours about him. The mother made several veiled threats when I spoke to them 'people know not to mess with us' etc. He's admitted calling my DS a fat cunt, but denies saying 'retarded' and says he didn't realise DS had autism but it's pretty obvious tbh. His Mum defended the 'fat' bit saying if he'd have been black they'd have called him a 'black cunt' instead, that 'it was just something to pick up on'. Lovely. I then said I couldn't believe she'd stand by and condone her DS being racist as well as violent and she told me to fuck off!
Took DS to be checked out - thankfully nothing is broken. DS was then scared to come home even though he loved it here before. I phoned the housing association to say what had happened and they say there is nothing they can do as it happened away from the houses. I spoke to the school who advised me to report it to the police, as they are unlikely to be able to permanently exclude him.
My DS is now in bed, in pain and in tears not understanding what he is supposed to have done while the boy next door is in the garden with his mates and his family seemingly happy as Larry. His Mum spoke to me as we got back, said she didn't want any trouble but made it clear she thinks its the other kids and teacher at fault for what happened, not her son.
I don't know what to do. I am so bloody angry and want to report it to the police, but am scared of the comeback from them given I have to live next door to these people. The school have been lovely, but I have no idea how I am going to get him back there again given what has now happened on top of all the bullying I tried to protect him from before. What shall I do?