So short story is I was seeing this guys for just over a year. I probably wasn’t in a great place to have a relationship as I was still reeling from the breakup of a long term one. However despite that he wasn’t great himself at times. I think maybe it was a case of wrong time wrong place and just being incompatible. He broke up with me in the summer and it was really knocked me hard. I found it very difficult.
8 weeks later he got back in touch wanting to be friends and I thought maybe I should give it a go. I was having counselling and my counsellor advised not making rash decisions. It’s been about 5 weeks and in all honesty I still feel aggrieved and hurt about things he did and I’m just not sure I want to be friends with him at all. I oscilate from feeling fine and enjoying the friendship to feeling angry or upset when I remember certain things. Neither of us had a proper conversation after he got back in touch about what happened and so it’s hard for me to just brush everything under the carpet. He messages a lot every few days.
Would I be unreasonable to send him a message and how do I word it? I don’t want him to think I’m pining over him!