To ask for advice - FWB?

[FriendsWithNoBenefits]

I’m starting a fwb, meeting up with him for the first time tomorrow. I’ve never done this before so can anyone that has give me some advice?

We’ve talked about what we want/expect and how we’ll work things. Have spoken about stopping if either of us met someone we wanted to be in a relationship with.

I’m a little bit worried about feelings developing if we have regular sex. We’ve spoken about stopping if either of us starts expecting more - but is it going to be that easy?

He’s not a close friend, just someone I see every now and again but I’m comfortable around him and we get on great. I’m not really worried about losing the friendship if things go wrong because we don’t see each other that often now anyway.

So anything I’ve missed? Anything else I need to think about?

I think if you’re typically somebody who develops feelings easily, this is going to become a problem sooner rather than later. One of the key problems with FWB arrangements is that one person (usually the woman) develops feelings but then actively chooses not to end things despite previous agreements to do so because she’s secretly hoping that if she sticks around long enough the guy will also develop feelings and it’ll turn into a relationship. More often than not this doesn’t happen and you just end up with a terribly unfair and awkward situation for both parties. You have to be absolutely honest and straight with yourself about your capacity for making decisions and following through with them.

You also both need to establish whether you’re going to have an open or “don’t ask don’t tell” policy with regard to other people you might be seeing. Also quite common is one person assuming that things are exclusive without having a conversation about it, when this is actually pretty rare for FWBs.

Other than that, just don’t overthink and have fun. The whole point is that you don’t have the boundaries and limitations of a “relationship”, so complicating things by overthinking and trying to foresee every possibly outcome eradicated the main purpose of having a FWB.