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Original poster

...By asking my DH to sniff the sanitary pads?

146 replies

ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 04/11/2019 12:01

He didn't sniff them, and came home with fucking scented ones.

I despise them, they stink like someone's sprayed febreeze in a butchers when you're wearing them. Also, they give me thrush.

I asked him to get me some from the shop, he was in there, specified that they needed to be non scented. Asked him to give the packet a quick sniff in the shop. He refused. I wasn't asking him to hold them to his face and inhale deeply, literally just a quick waft past his face.

I think he's being a massive fanny, he thinks I'm unreasonable and it would have been weird.

Who is being unreasonable?

(Iwouldn't mind but he didn't even read them, it literally says *these contain a perfumed "fresh" scent which will make your vulva sore after wearing them. Or words to that effect anyway.)

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Filopastryface · 04/11/2019 13:23

I can strongly reccommend washable pads though, they are wonderful.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 04/11/2019 13:23

Yes YABU

If your DH stood there sniffing the packets I certainly would do a double take at him . Its a weird thing to ask him.

frazzledasarock · 04/11/2019 13:24

DP actually does this without being asked.

He went shopping for Sanpro and came back to complain about how horrible the smell was.

He’d been asked to avoid the scented ones so sniffed the pack.

Your DH is being unreasonable. Send him back to swap them.

qazxc · 04/11/2019 13:24

I don't really blame him for not wanting to sniff Sanitary pads in the shop TBH.
However he should have gotten you unscented ones by reading the packet or checking with you which brand/type you wanted as you were on Facetime at the time.

Original poster
ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 04/11/2019 13:28

I would usually have a stash. Its been an odd few weeks vaginally, this is my third full and proper period in six weeks. Usually I only have one every seven or so weeks so definitely wasn't expecting it. Well no, I thought I might have been coming on in about a week and a half but wasn't sure.

I was on FaceTime, I asked him to read the packaging, should have specified, he also had possession of our toddler. I did actually tell him to "get the blue night time ones just make sure they aren't scented"

I would have gone myself but he offered, and I was VERY bleedy, I was using one of our son's nappies at the time.

I did say thanks, after I laughed and called him a muppet and made him sniff them at home Grin

Surely OP was being light-hearted when she posted.
I was Grin

NEW INFORMATION
He did actually ask a shop assistant at the time. She apparently said they were fine and not scented.

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XXcstatic · 04/11/2019 13:29

YANBU to ask him to read the packet. YABU to ask him to sniff it - there are loads of period fetishists out there. I don't suppose your DH wants to be mistaken for one and, more importantly, he is likely to make women customers uncomfortable if he hangs around, sniffing packets.

Original poster
ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 04/11/2019 13:30

I can strongly reccommend washable pads though, they are wonderful.
This is my plan. I think I'm going to make my own though as I'm really struggling with flooding. I'm having to lay two side by side and hope for the best Blush

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AnotherEmma · 04/11/2019 13:31

YABU, just get a menstrual cup or washable pads 🤪

(In his defence he did ask a shop assistant and I hear it's notoriously difficult to find unscented sanpro?! Maybe next time you buy some take a photo of the ones you normally use, so he knows what to look for.)

AnotherEmma · 04/11/2019 13:32

Cross post.
Honour Your Flow sells lots of different shapes and sizes.
They might still offer a mumsnet discount (10%, code MUMSNET).

ZebrasAreHorsesInPyjamas · 04/11/2019 13:35

I can just imagine a new thread...:

AIBU - weird man in Tescos!

So, there I was, I was minding my own business in Tesco's and I was in the, ahem, ladies special items aisle (read in a whisper of course) and there was a MAN. Not only was there a MAN in the ladies special items aisle (whisper again), he was on the phone and he was SNIFFING a box of pads and muttering into his phone looking dead shifty. I immediately went over to him and started beating him with my baguette, WIBU???

I know I wasn't. Why was a MAN in that aisle if he wasn't a perv? Bloody weirdo, do you think he was having some weird fetish phone sex or something?? Should I report him to someone???

Wink Grin

ZebrasAreHorsesInPyjamas · 04/11/2019 13:35

Aw, italics fail!!

MesmorisedByTheLights · 04/11/2019 13:36

I can't bear the scented ones either. But I would have specified exactly which pack (brand, colour etc) to get.

PlanDeRaccordement · 04/11/2019 13:38

C’est la vie. Just return the package and get the unscented ones.
Not something I’d get upset over.

PlanDeRaccordement · 04/11/2019 13:40

@ZebrasAreHorsesInPyjamas
Love your story. I could see it happen.
🤣🤣

Original poster
ToTheRegimentIWishIWasThere · 04/11/2019 13:40

YANBU to ask him to read the packet. YABU to ask him to sniff it - there are loads of period fetishists out there. I don't suppose your DH wants to be mistaken for one and, more importantly, he is likely to make women customers uncomfortable if he hangs around, sniffing packets.

This is true. I would genuinely hate for another woman to be made uncomfortable.

Thanks anotherEmma I didn't know that!

Just to confirm, this thread was intentioned as light-hearted and jokey. He came home with salted caramel cupcakes too, which I can't forgive him for. Just thankful he also brought some malteasers or he'd be getting divorced now Grin

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Fuckenstein · 04/11/2019 13:41

I dont think you were being Unreasonable OP because they give me thrush too, so does scented loo roll.

He wouldn't have to go for a full on face in sniff and if I saw him I would have totally understood. Those things are awful.

Make him wear one in his underwear and see if his testicles like it!

alittlequinnie · 04/11/2019 13:44

I didn't know which ones I was using and whether they were scented or not so I decided to be really careful the next time I picked up a packet.

I must have been stood in Sainsburys for so long that even as a woman i was getting funny looks!

The choice is staggering! I actually wanted unscented NOT winged ones!

No chance - I had to buy bodyform with wings because they were the only clear ones that said that they were unscented. None of them say "scented" on the box or make it clear.

I feel for the OP's DH - it's mind boggling.

I can only hope the menopause comes quickly and eliminates the need for the confusion - on my part anyway!

Greysparkles · 04/11/2019 13:45

I have asked my DH to do this Grin but he is dyslexic so has trouble reading the packaging!

XXcstatic · 04/11/2019 13:46

He came home with salted caramel cupcakes too, which I can't forgive him for

Now that is a LTB offence Grin

Vulpine · 04/11/2019 13:47

Never leave this in the hands of a bloke

Vulpine · 04/11/2019 13:48

I dont even buy my dh's razors

ffswhatnext · 04/11/2019 13:50

Aw all these menfolk that cannot read or have any sense.

He came home with scented - it’s says on the packet if you are overcome by the the stench from the aisle. You will realise before you have paid.

He came home with incontitience pads - another none reader. Says on the pack what they are.

Embarrassing, about what? Do they also get embarrassed when buying toilet role? Or Male cat owners cat littler? What’s the difference?

Withdraw favours? I hope you was joking.

Facetime? Show him pictures?
Does he walk around with his eyes closed. Bet he would expect you to remember some obscure item you once saw him use many years ago.

You should have prepared for it. Great if you have perfect periods. But when you suddenly start to go through them, not enough preparation in the world.

Why should he buy them. I’d never ask etc. Why not? Don’t you pick up stuff for him as well? What about if he’s in pain and needs some preph? We supposed to say tough shit you should have thought about it happening? Not had a migraine in ages and so haven’t realised the meds are out of date, why should your partner want to do this to care for you? Personally I couldn’t be with someone selfish enough not to give a shit about my health.

If I saw a man sniffing them I would do what his partner should have done and made sure it wasn’t so hidden from him.

If you are legally old enough and are actually fucking then why be embarrassed about it? Can understand pubescent girls and teen boys being embarrassed. But a grown ass man who is not only fucking, would have also bought condoms, had sti tests, talk about sex to their mates, maybe been there at the birth of his child, cannot for whatever batshit reason buy a pair of pads needs to get over themselves. It’s pathetic.

And I was really hoping it was to ask him to smell a used one 🤣 then yea that would be taking the absolute piss and I would tell anyone who asked to fuck off.

VenusTiger · 04/11/2019 13:55

Should’ve asked him to check with staff member

Cheeseandwin5 · 04/11/2019 13:58

If its that important , i would have either given him the old package to compare or a photo.

Littledidsheknow · 04/11/2019 14:00

Why didn’t you just tell him which ones to buy? “The bodyform ones in the PINK packet” or whichever ones you usually use? Confused