To think if nobody mentions it, it must look shit?

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If you change your hairstyle, long to very short, straight to curly, brown to blonde.. etc etc.
And you go meet people/friends and nobody mentions it...therefore it must look awful

I think a lot of the time people honestly don't notice. I remember I went from having very long dark brown hair to shoulder length darkish blonde hair and literally no one noticed at my work until someone went "did you get your hair cut?" hours later and my whole team went OHHHHH I noticed something was different but couldn't put my finger on what changed 🤦‍♀️

I am in the do not notice category and guilty of not noticing when my husband shaved off his beard and moustache on the first day of our holiday! He had to point it out to me 😳

I swapped my unobtrusive metal specs frames for a much more statement pair of tortoiseshell frames. No one said anything and I started thinking I must have made a terrible mistake.

I swapped my unobtrusive metal specs frames for a much more statement pair of tortoiseshell frames. No one said anything and I started thinking I must have made a terrible mistake. I got rid of my rather obvious frames completely and moved to contact lenses. My own mother didn't notice. On the final day of my visit I hinted I might look a bit different, she took a careful look, and said "you've had your hair cut".

I think maybe it's not that people don't notice, they look, see you look nice, think there's something maybe a bit different, but because you're there in front of them, they can't bring to mind what you used to look like, and find it easier to stay quiet rather than risk putting their foot in it.

I'm also in the Does Not Notice category. My memory is dreadful (has always been, for faces in particular), but has got worse over the past few years. DH is a Beardy Person & has only shaved it all off once in well over a decade... it took me nearly an hour to notice. He trims it pretty short in spring, when the weather starts to warm up - sometimes I don't notice for days. I usually catch on when I spot his "leavings" helpfully festooned around the sink for me to clean up. I bought him a Beard Buddy, which helped but isn't infallible though.

Sometimes because im not comfortable or close enough with the person to comment.

Ive had people give fake compliments or make a light hearted comment thinking that im mortified or unhappy about a haircut when i actually liked it.

I'm sorry, but if you have drastically changed your hairstyle and nobody mentions it, I think they think it looks a bit shit.

A lady in work dyed her hair pillar box red, from being blonde and apart from me, nobody mentioned a word. It was a bit awkward.

But if the person with the change likes it, that's all that matters imho.

I'm sorry, but if you have drastically changed your hairstyle and nobody mentions it, I think they think it looks a bit shit.

^This

I cant believe no one would notice as I have noticed when people have had a fringe trim, but Maybe I'm a bit shallow. Alternatively, they may all be mumsnetters and have read the memo which states you should never comment on another person's appearance, especially a females appearance .

Recently a colleague had her eyebrows tattooed on and it did look awful - I couldn't lie to the woman so said nothing until she did and gave some round about platitudes about it being good to treat yourself.

I have been on the receiving end of the false compliments though when I let my natural texture of my hair out. Not sure if that's worse than nothing at all. Plus there's not a lot I could do about it - it's literally my natural hair, I can't change my genetics!

Does it matter if you like it though?

Often people dont like something because t makes you look different and they dont like that. Not because said change in itself is shit.

Going back to dying you hair bright red/blue/whatever. I personally would not choose that sort of colour. I dot think it is particularly nice on anyone. But if the peson who CHOOSE to dye it pink/blue/red is happy nd see that as nice, then so be it.
Thats what is important. not what random people (or even close ones) think

People always notice when I change my hair, guess that’s a good thing I suppose? I have had black, various shades of brown and blonde hair in differing lengths over the years thanks to extensions.

One of the nicest unintended compliments is when people don’t notice when I’m wearing extensions or not. My natural hair is very fine and damaged and I’m quite insecure, would literally never leave my house without extensions for 6 months. But when I stopped wearing them everyone was really complimentary about my hair which made me feel better about it, as it was such a massive insecurity.

I find it's a minefield comnenting on a change in appearance so i don't do it anymore.

I think sometimes people don't really notice and that means that it suits you.