Family sniffy about me earning NMW

[Usernamqwerty]

After 3 years as a SAHM, I am looking for a local part-time job. I could get a job in my old field of work for more money, but this would involve travelling into London and with the kids so young, I need something local for the next few years.

When I told my Dad I had been accepted for a job trial for a local waitressing job, he started commenting on how it was only NMW and crap money etc. I felt quite upset as this was a big confidence boost for me. He's always been weird about money and I was embarrassed to tell him. Am also dreading telling my friend who is weird about money and earns a lot more than me. Why are some people so snobby about money? 😩

Don’t share your job news with people who do not understand your situation, unless he was involved in childminding ? Do they really need to know and is it their business being so unsupportive!

Cos they are arseholes!

Some people are just snobby.

My sister could have written your post a few years ago, apart from the London bit. She doesn't actually live somewhere with good professional job opportunities. Our parents often moan/sigh about how is "such a pity she can't find a job using her degree", but actually the job she has now suits her. They're close to her ex so the kids see their dad often (2-3 nights a week), she works weekdays 9:30-3, so she can do school drop off and pick up, then has a different part time job waitressing/bar work at weekends while the kids are at their dads. She could do with more money, but this actually fits with her current life. Once the kids are older and more independent she'll try to find something different.

do what suits you, it's your life, you don't need approval from anyone, if people are snidy just change the subject, don't let anyone put you down. they are the ones with the problem.

Oh good, thanks! No childcare from him, he's babysat maybe twice since I had my first three years ago.

Many women will take a lesser job to fit in around Children .Its just what happens for a while .I have friends who have done this .One was a Dentist ,and then worked in a Nursery while her DC were young . As long as you are earning money then its nobody elses beeswax! Many parents like to boast about their adult DC ,and a NMW job doesnt carry the same kudos as working in London really !

Thanks so much! That makes sense x