Anyone else’s life a bit of a disaster?

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I’ve name changed for this! AIBU to wonder if anyone else’s life just seems to be a bit of a disaster at the moment? Sometimes I feel there are so many people on here (and in RL) with pretty perfect, almost Stepford Wives type lives (not a bad thing, I’m jealous!) and I am hoping there are others out there like me where it’s all just going to shit behind closed doors .

If so, please feel free to join me so I don’t feel so bad! At the moment, my life looks like this:

• unwell dog who is possibly on his last legs
• unwell elderly grandparent who is somehow still managing to be one of the most difficult people I know!
• small, dysfunctional family where all the decent people have died in the past few years
• more money going out than coming in
• behind with every almost every bill I have
• future of my relationship is pretty uncertain
• no savings left at all
• trying to spread myself between work, DS, DP, DDog, family and feeling like no one is getting the best of me
• house really needs redecorating
• house really needs a good clean!
• I probably also need a good clean 😂
• poor diet, limited exercise, generally run down - avoiding mirrors at the moment!

Basically it’s all just falling apart! This is light hearted though, I’m sure it will all be fine! Housework will be sorted tomorrow, finances will be dealt with on Monday and overall everyone is still pretty happy but please tell me I’m not the only one who’s life isn’t how they want it to be at the moment!

Life is really awful sometimes. You seem to be carrying on though, putting one foot in front of the other can be enough to keep you going in the right direction. Well done to you for that...... I am struggling to do that at the moment. I think there are probably lots of us who would like to be doing better than we are.

Although a minor thing did make me laugh, someone has corrupted my username and started calling themselves PullingMySocksUpToo! Hilarious 🤣! If only they knew what they were willingly copying!

I think you can take “those on t’interweb” with a pinch of salt. If I took some of shit I’ve seen on here seriously I’d be crying myself to sleep every night because I didn’t get back in my size 10 skinny jeans the same day I gave birth.

I don’t have your specific problems, but I’ve got some. A few grand would help, a fully paid psychiatrist for a year could help (or hinder).

It’s not all bad though, it’s just life. No one’s Is perfect (especially on the internet).

Sorry about your dog, though. Been there a few times and it’s awful

Sounds like my life OP Have some wine and cake and worry about it all tomorrow

Yeah mine is really sliding in a scary way.

Mines the same Op. it comes in waves. At the moment I’m struggling with postpartum anxiety and life isn’t the best, some people just blow smoke out of their arses

I’m sorry to hear about your dog too - can be so hard they are a part of your family. Also for the personal hygiene I had my first bath in 5 days today

Yes I know what you mean, Op. My life isn't exactly fabulous either I am severely overweight caused by food issues, having trouble ttc probably because of it, depression and anxiety have haunted me since I was a child. I want more than anything to be a fit and healthy mum who is happy and not addicted to food. Seems impossible . Sometimes I just wish I could be a 'nomal' person.

I've just realised this was meant to be light hearted sorry 🤦‍♀️

Mine is shit, in many of the ways you have mentioned. See no way out.

Oh I get this
Massive row with DH, again. We don't speak, we never hug, show affection, cursory kiss goodbye and that's it. I can feel myself shutting down and closing off avenues of communication with everyone, rsp DH and either he hasn't noticed or doesn't care.

Money fucking itself up.

Dc1 getting anxious at high school, not eating and then eating paper or crap out of school, says no social life, brittle.

Dc2 been bullied all through school, O collated all old notes and emails and asked school to.hrlp for transition since not been fully addressed, ended up having a massive sobbing fit letting rip at a member of staff.

Hate work.

Keep having to reschedule hospital.apps thanks to shit that always falls to.ne to sort out on my afternoon off. Months behind.

No help sorting DC birthdays out.

DH fell over annihilated a couple of weeks ago, told him to stop drinking or leave. He tried to make token gestures telling me he thinks he needs to look at drinking. Same shit heard time again and said this. Beyond caring.

Had to flag in a concern (not big) within church... It's obvious it's me and while I've done the right thing to question something it's not gone down well and it's clear I'm being given a chilly reception, and I want to point out if someone hadn't allegedly behaviled lime a thoughtless grabby dick there wouldn't have been anything to query. Why do good? Why question something and upset the applecart, just turn a blind eye because it seems it's so much easier and your face will still fit.

I crave opting out, solitude, side stepping away to have peace and quiet, I don't want to interact with people.

On weekend away, second night can't sleep, in tears, want to go home.

Yep,

1. Low paid job with threat of unemployment.
2. Eternally single
3. No Friends
4. Difficult home life with family issues
5. Ugly and look like a child
6. Have ulcerative colitis

Yep me.
I’ve just realised that I needed to complete a pre op questionaire for an operation due Wednesday. I’m hoping that the op can still go ahead have just completed it on line.
Due to the op had to cancel a night away with friends lost our deposits as had already been postponed once because of me being ill. Laying in bed worrying I’ve cocked the op up and last the deposited for nothing. Feel I can’t get anything right And house is a state too.

"all the decent people have died" oh OP I'm so sorry but this made me laugh!!! Can I join you here:

• Mum died a couple of months ago
• obese and need to lose 5 stone
• future of relationship unknown – have broken up about 5 sodding times this week
• extended family are all abso-fucking-lutely useless and I have resorted to ignoring everything they message! currently the black sheep of the family and loving it
• signed up to a beginners running club and then had to drop out after the first run because I couldn't keep up
• my fabulous, funny best friend is emigrating (selfish cow)
• stress/grief has given me IBS and I can't stop shitting!!!

Yes OP I feel you!
•19 and have a one year old
•currently going through a court case with my abusive ex
•he's also fighting for rights over our child
•my mum who is my biggest support system has recently started a nursing degree
•finically always doing crap
•can't make any mum friends
•constantly feeling like a general burden on everyone really
•cannot learn how to bloody drive!

I'm sure we will get there in the end, holding that everything gets a bit easier for you❤️

Saw the title of this thread and immediately said "yep" out loud

My life is really quite depressing at the minute:

• 5k debt
• eternally single (I attract shit men)
• skint and half dependent on benefits with currently no way out
• very few friends
• lonely a lot of the time
• 3 stone overweight
• renting and desperately wanting a mortgage
• I have a gorgeous 6 year old son but I worry he's missing out with it being just us two
• I desperately want a 'proper' family, but refer back to the second point for why I can't
• I have a dodgy ovary so could potentially struggle to conceive anyway

I honestly don't know where to begin trying to turn this shit show around!

I've had yet another major life saving operation (the 4th) and live daily with a condition that will end my life prematurely. My beloved lab died aged only eight and mum died in July (I'm now an adult orphan and feel lost.) To say it's been a shit year is an understatement but I still feel blessed to have a wonderful DH, DC, brothers, sisters and friends.

I'm so glad I'm not the only person who got in to bed, shut my eyes, felt them well up so sat up and switched my phone back on (to check mn!)

Too many things to list but thank you to everyone who has shared and made me feel a bit less lonely for a while

12p left spare three days after payday
I get 30 minutes alone a month
Family of total headcases and a narc mother and father
Haven't had sex for ... what... years, maybe? DH is LL.
I dyed my eyebrows yesterday for the first time in a year. That was the highlight of 2019 so far 😁