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[freedom75]

Met a guy OLD & he comes across well, articulate, intelligent etc etc. Been chatting a while & it comes to light he doesn't see his 15 year old son & hasn't for 4 years! Apparently he spent 40k on solicitors fees & in some sort of custody battle! I have been on
The freedom course & this seems like a red flag to me (he says she wasn't an unfit mother or anything). The guys who tended to end up
In this situation were usually trying to
Punish their ex partner & were controlling etc from what I gathered on the course. Am
I being unreasonable to not pursue this because of this red flag or are there other reasons men would not see their kids for this length of time etc

I personally wouldn't see this as a red flag, but it would be a bad character trait for me. My dad made all the excuses under the sun as to why he didn't see me when I was young. And it was all hot air and blaming everyone else. So I would say give it some serious thought. If it doesn't sit right with you, then I don't think he's worth your time.

Well without finding out more info yes you are being unreasonable. Sometimes backing away is the less painful/harmful ting to do for all concerned. Sometimes there is little choice. Perhaps he knows he made mistakes but it is too late to change things? Yes be cautious but onit,s own it wouldn,t be a deal breaker for me.

I've never heard of this in a case where the man was a decent father. So I'd back off. You know him, we don't, so you'll need to weigh up what you know of him so far to decide.

Well my instincts were right! Turned out to be total loony! Never even met up with the guy & yet he had a go as I was showing live on
Match still! Phew lucky escape!

Why on earth would you come off OLD before meeting someone? That would have shown a startling lack of boundaries. I'm glad you ditched creepy crapdad. Anyone else interesting for those watching vicariously?