DB is a final year student and normally lives at home with his parents (FIL and SMIL) where from all accounts he is very well looked after (think has a brand new car, posh bike, iphone etc) and isn't a student in the sense that i was a student scrapping 20p together to buy supernoodles in the 00s!
DB decided that he wanted a break from his parents and asked to come and stay with us for 6 weeks (200 miles away) whilst he does an unpaid placement. His FIL said at the time that he'd provide some money to cover his food and we agreed on the condition that he'd help out with the dog and clean up after himself as we have 3 young DC (2 preschool).
The time has come and hes been with us 2 weeks now. He's told us that FIL offered him either money to bring with him to give to us or money towards buying a new (rather expensive) phone. He said he chose the phone and he would be contributing to his food through money he's earned doing packing over the summer.
We've got an unexpected bill due in a few months which we hadn't budgeted for and have had to seriously rejig our finances to accommodate this plus christmas to save for but now i feel awful as i will be taking from a student when we have well paid jobs on the face of it- as we know with mortgage and childcare there isn't a lot left. I know his mother (SMIL) will see it like this as well.
DP thinks the same but has added that he made the decision to come here rather than stay at home, we know he has savings (he is saving to buy a house) and that he isn't a student in the sense that we were (living on super noodles and wearing ancient hoodies).
AIBU to take money from a student?