Leaving my partner

[littletikes27]

After years of all kinds of abuse, physical and emotional, I've decided it needs to come to an end. I feel like I hate him but always seem to go back.

He wouldn't leave our home so I'm going to my moms with our DD. He has never shown any interest in her but as soon as I leave he makes me feel sorry for him saying he has nothing etc which is true. His DM passed away a few years ago and he barley speaks to his family.

Right now I'm crying so much because of how much I hate him but why do I always go back? He will be on the phone crying tonight but next week it'll start again

Please give me some advice on how to cut contact? He will turn up at my moms etc and I haven't the heart to call the police (I know, I'm stupid)

Sorry there's no AIBU.. just a desperate young women begging for help 😞

As MNHQ to move this to relationships.

Block him on everything apart from one email address which you divert into its own folder and only look at once per week.

Read up on "grey rock" technique you basically need to ignore him.

Write a list of all the shit he does and look at it everyday as a reminder of why not to go back. Look at your dd and the impact this has on her. Make plans to get your own place with your dd.

Contact www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

Tell your mum to contact the police, and to ignore any requests from you not to.

Set in motion legal wheels re contact.

Freedom Programme. It will help enormously.

Focus on the better future you want to reach for you and your daughter, and your need to protect her from any more abuse, rather than your momentary discomfort in the present. You have to focus on why you are doing this.

Your difficult feelings are natural and very very temporary. If you stick with what you are doing and give yourself time to adjust and finish grieving, they will pass and you will feel better. Going back to him won't get rid of them it will only prolong them.

Be kind to yourself about being caring while you have all these difficult feelings, but firm with yourself about how you respond. E.g. Feeling sad is ok and curling up in a blanket to have a cry then watch your favourite film is absolutely fine as a response, calling or texting or visiting him is not.

When you wobble talk to people - in real life, here, at women's aid, at the Freedom Programme.

Tell yourself "I am doing this to make life better".

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